spesmilitis
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At my fitness store, there are severl types of materials for deadlift straps. Anyone know which one gives the best grip?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
grip strengthspesmilitis said:At my fitness store, there are severl types of materials for deadlift straps. Anyone know which one gives the best grip?
what's the use of a belt? does it help your posture or something?edmond said:Why do you need a belt, how long have you been lifting, do you really need a belt?
Every one in the gym walks around with a belt on, including to go to the water fountain, people seem to have forgotten the real reason for wearing a belt, now it is just a fashion accessory.
The serious lifter uses the belt ONLY for dead lift and squat, sub-maximum or maximum lifts.
The same with a wrist strap, only after you have mastered the perfect dead lift, should you try on the straps.
Good Luck.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Spes never mentioned a belt, he is talking about wrist wraps that wrap around the bar to help your grip when you're lifting heavy.edmond said:Why do you need a belt, how long have you been lifting, do you really need a belt?
Every one in the gym walks around with a belt on, including to go to the water fountain, people seem to have forgotten the real reason for wearing a belt, now it is just a fashion accessory.
The serious lifter uses the belt ONLY for dead lift and squat, sub-maximum or maximum lifts.
The same with a wrist strap, only after you have mastered the perfect dead lift, should you try on the straps.
Good Luck.