Fellas in your opinion, what is the best solution to end your AFC behavior/one-itis. In my opinion, I believe the best solution is having strong faith in God and praying. I believe that no matter if I have a woman or not, God will always be there for me and will always be my best friend. I believe that God knows whats best for me and will send me the woman when the time is right. Having faith in God ends desperate/needy behavior because women come and go, but God will always be there for you.
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Best solution for ending AFC behavior
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The TallOne
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Grow some balls, and start respecting yourself.
Religious discussions are forbidden on this board so I won't go into depth, but I actually think the opposite is true.
I think the key is to stop depending on other people, fate, luck and God, and take responsibility for yourself. If you take comfort in believing in God, good for you, but do not depend on Him to write your fate.
God will not send you the right woman; YOU must find her. God will not make you succeed; YOU must work for success and you should always take blame for your mistakes and credit for your successes.
Inaction is possibly the worst of all AFC mistakes.
I think the key is to stop depending on other people, fate, luck and God, and take responsibility for yourself. If you take comfort in believing in God, good for you, but do not depend on Him to write your fate.
God will not send you the right woman; YOU must find her. God will not make you succeed; YOU must work for success and you should always take blame for your mistakes and credit for your successes.
Inaction is possibly the worst of all AFC mistakes.
Agreed
Many (not all) religious people are AFC.. because they blindly follow the rules dictacted by others, and they use "God" as a crutch to excuse their own lack of action.
God will not send you the right woman... if that were true we would not have a terrible divorce rate. God won't do anything but watch as you chumps destroy your lives....
THis is a stupid thread.
DIetzcoi
Many (not all) religious people are AFC.. because they blindly follow the rules dictacted by others, and they use "God" as a crutch to excuse their own lack of action.
God will not send you the right woman... if that were true we would not have a terrible divorce rate. God won't do anything but watch as you chumps destroy your lives....
THis is a stupid thread.
DIetzcoi
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Heizen
Senior Don Juan
SO this isnt so much you interested in our opinion, so much as you are giving a shout out to religion.
Simply believing in yourself is enough. At least that is tangible.
Simply believing in yourself is enough. At least that is tangible.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
I think the best way to end being an AFC.
read the DJ bible..go look in the mirror..admit that ur not the man you thought you were...humbly let it go.
then start ur pursuit.
also respect yourself first
read the DJ bible..go look in the mirror..admit that ur not the man you thought you were...humbly let it go.
then start ur pursuit.
also respect yourself first
skinnydart
Master Don Juan
Why not do the opposite? Go look in the mirror and tell yourself you're not the loser you thought you were, that you really can get any girl you want, then go out and do it!
P.S. LADawg49, right on!
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Yeah. Of course we cannot be arrogant and say that we will never need help, because human being depends on each other to some degree.
But we should also be STRONG and work for our dreams, and not by waiting for someone to do it for us!
At the very moment you accept credits for your actions you'll have to accept the successes as well as the failures!
There're people that just assume the success but when they fail it was someone's else mistake!
Being a bit ****y is good, but too much will just prevents you from learning from your mistakes!
You are right skinnydart and thats been my mentality. I know that I can get any woman I want and that any woman will be lucky to have me. I believe if you have a good attitude, ull attract more women out there. What the purpose of my post was that a DJ can have strong belief in God and just cause someone prays/has strong faith in God does not mean he is an AFC.
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