"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
****y = Obnoxious
****y = Annoying
****y = Clown
I don't see why you would want to be c+f anyway since she is your GF.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Believe me, ****y funny works. It may not have worked for you, or you might not have done it right, or given it a fair shot, but it works. It is like a food condiment, you gotta now how and when to use and how much to use it in order to make it work effectively. You can't just pour it on, it looses its effect.NickBe said:
What are probably the two most attractive qualities women love in men? You got it, Confidence and a great sense of humor. Women love a confident man who also has a great sense of humor. The problem is that most guys use "****y/Dumbass" more often than ****y funny. Also, the technique itself won't work if the guy using it is a plain jacka$s.
To the original poster, I agree with the others here, you're in your head too much. You got a girlfriend, don't worry about texts, just focus on being a fun interesting guy, specially when you are spending time together.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"I tried ****y and funny and said 'I am so hot I am to good for you' and she got mad"
****y does not work and most of the crap David D writes does not work. Confidence however does work....
Although I do go for smart women so maybe ****iness works with your run of the mill white American chick. If I wanted to spend my days discussing American Idol and fast food maybe I should be a little more ****y. Who knows...
Seriously though, women love confidence and deplore ****iness. Confident+funny works not ****y+funny.
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Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
****y, yet not overdone, works. The humor part is used to make the ****y part more mellow. OK, semantics, who cares wether it is confident, or ****y, etc. it is the same idea. Ok, so you don't agree with the terminology, yet we are talking about the same thing. I agree with you, most people here will try it and wonder why the girls run away. Even ****y itself works if done right. As long as it is not overdone to the point of being seen as overcompensating for other shortcomings.NickBe said:
Believe me, if I use my sarcasm, wit, and confidence, and/or ****yness mixed the right way, she will usually react positively. If she doesn't, I know she's either a bimbo that just doesn't get it, the humor of it, very inexperienced sociallay, or plainly an uptight witch who I really don't have any interest in pursuing. The smarter and more fun shes is, the more positively she will react, from my experience.
Confident:
1. Having strong belief or full assurance; sure: confident of fulfillment.
2. sure of oneself; having no uncertainty about one's own abilities, correctness, successfulness, etc.; self-confident; bold: a confident speaker.
3. Excessively bold; presumptuous.
****y:
arrogant; pertly self-assertive; conceited
Women do not like ****y it is the wrong word and gives newbies the wrong impression. It makes them think they need to be arrogant and obnoxious.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Although, I have had tons of women tell me "You are kind of arrogant!" with a big smile and look that clearly tells me they are very attracted to me. Many of them confirmed it later on that they were very attracted to my confidence. So even the women get confused with the teminology.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
However, as a month or two went by, I noticed the jokes I started using that worked, and the ones' that didn't. I layed off the ****y a tad bit and used a combination of Funny, sweet, and ****y. I have found this works the best for me!
Note: When you insult somebody, you are not using ****y humor effectively. I strongly suggest you look at some threads in this forum, there are many great one's out there! Once you read a couple, you will start to make some on your own!
Also, don't use ****y humor on girls who are insecure, shy, etc.. you will not the get the same result as if you were approaching a 7 or an 8. ****y humor just sets you apart from other guys, at least in my opinion. It shows that you aren't just a quiet guy, you are funny, energetic, and you think of yourself really highly. Girls don't say it, but they like a guy who is just a little bit too ****y. As long as you know how to balance both funny and ****y, you will notice results. Also, don't do it too much - only do it when it's a perfect moment. You don't always have to be ****y and funny, take everything into moderation!
Oh yes, and as for a reply to the thread.
Girl: "How are you."
You: "Many women say I'm pretty fine."
I would use that depending on your relationship with the girl. If you hardly talk to her, you might scare her. I know pretty much all the women I associate with really well - so I tend to tease them all in the same way.
Either that, or I would not reply to the text - do this especially if you tend to reply to texts all the time.
If you find she is texting you ALOT and you hardly talk to her on the phone, and you want to hear her voice, text her back with something such as:
"Wow, can't we just talk on the phone like NORMAL people? " And depending on how ****y you were before or how well she knows you, you could add this: "I know my good looks may be intimidating, but don't worry.. I don't bite... too hard."
I just thought of those in like 2 minutes to be honest - perfect the art of ****y funny and I'm sure you will be able to think of better answers.