You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Have to agree with st99 on this one.st_99 said:I've been so surprised at the garbage i've hooked up with that looked perfect on paper. Upper level professions that require advanced education, quiet, nothing seemed out of wack. But it turned out on a 1 to 10 scale they were maybe a 2 in terms of relationship worthy.
You just never now man. Dont even bother looking for the right place or type or whatever.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Can you elaborate on what they were like?st_99 said:I've been so surprised at the garbage i've hooked up with that looked perfect on paper. Upper level professions that require advanced education, quiet, nothing seemed out of wack. But it turned out on a 1 to 10 scale they were maybe a 2 in terms of relationship worthy.
You just never now man. Dont even bother looking for the right place or type or whatever.
That's funny, i lost my ex to another guy cos SHE wanted to learn to salsa and i refused to go. All that kino from the suave latin american guy caused a rift between us. I guess I didn't make myself enough of a prize that she'd risk losing me over dancing.backbreaker said:the horse track is the most unkonwn/untapped resource of high quality womein in the country if not the world.
I've always wanted to learn how to tango. trying to talk the wife into doing classes. she cant dance to save her life though.
You'd be surprised at how many hot girls I see with ugly looking guys in the salsa scene. It just goes to show the power of kino. These guys know how to dance, they are confident, they kino women a lot through dancing and at the end their looks don't matter they still end up with hot girlfriends. The kino overpowers the women.That's funny, i lost my ex to another guy cos SHE wanted to learn to salsa and i refused to go. All that kino from the suave latin american guy caused a rift between us. I guess I didn't make myself enough of a prize that she'd risk losing me over dancing.
^This, more than anything^PapiChulo said:Where you hobbies or interests take place.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.