"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Best place to go on holiday?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
To have a good time... like a place that u went to that u really were NEVER bored and u had the "time of your life" ... Doesnt matter what i am looking for, i am asking a general question
Just a HOLIDAY place that you would consider to be the best place you have been on holiday toLaterz...
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
I was there for 2weeks (drunk every day of course ) and I can say honestly that it was the best vacation ever. Don't bring along chicks, go there with some good mates that knows how to have a good time, and I can gurantee you that it will be the best time of your life.
They have this big old ship that goes island-hopping all day/night. You pay ~50Euros, which includes food and all you can drink. It's basically a huge ass orgy, everybody gets totally smashed all day and when the night comes there this huge ass crazy party on the ship.
I was constantly drunk for 2weeks, thats the only solution if you want to avoid some nasty hangovers. I had a bottle of jeigermeister standing on my night table, and first thing after i woke up, I'd take a huge sip. It was totally sweet.
And there's this long (~1km) main bar street, that is just PACKED with bars. There are hot loose chick all over the place. Totally totally sweet.
I gotta warn you though. 2 weeks in Kos more than enough. After that 'vacation' i needed another one just to recover from Kos.
DrMetallica: Yeah i was thinking of going to Europe for abit, but then i thought it would be too common, i wanted something "different" (I have been to Europe before.. I lived there for 2 years) But ya, its a really nice place
Centaurion: I did some research on the place and it looks like a really nice place to go to.... I'm seriously considering going there now, looks awesome
One question though... For those 2 weeks, how much money did you spend? Otherwise thanx for the replies, I dont think i would of thought of Kos... Thanx
Laterz...
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
check out
http://www.greeka.com/dodecanese/kos/island/kos-night-life.htm
Thats a decent price for 2 weeks of non-stop partying!
Shweet man... I think I might just go there.... Now all i gotta do is get some friends to come with... I wanna go with around 4 or 5 friends, and maybe take my girl with me too (If I'm still with her) Thanx again man... appreciatedLaterz...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
Spend a week or two around the Formula 1 circus race weekend.
Un-friggin-believable.
Take money. LOTS and LOTS of money.
DrMetallica
Master Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
GlutusMaximus86
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earthshyne
Senior Don Juan
Upcoming Grands Prix:Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
Where is that? Whats there to do there? What do u need money for? Please explain
San Marino, April 24, Imola, Italy
Spain, May 8, Catalunya, Spain
Monaco, May 22, Monte Carlo
Europe, May 29, Nurburgring, Germany
Fast cars. Fast women. What more could a guy want?
diablo
Master Don Juan
Then again, you could check out the British Virgin Islands... Virgin Gourda to be specific. I didn't check out the diving, but the sights and boulders were amazing. Snorkeling was so-so, nothing compared to Sharm.
If you're not much for the water, check out Amsterdam. I'll be there in early June as well for 4 days, 5th or 6th trip (after a few they all just blur together...) Great "scenery" and excellent... ummm... yeah.
DrMetallica: I never got bored of it, my parents just decided to move to South Africa (Business Opportunities)
GlutusMaximus86: Hawaii has always been one of the places i planned on going to, so thats deffinatelly on my list
earthshyne: Sounds like a great time... but, not really my scene for a holiday
Thanx, though.Layla: aaahhhh.. The Caribians is one placeI HAVE to go to in my lifetime.. I have heard some really nice stories about it and I wanna experiance it too sometime... What were some of the things that you did there though?
diablo: Egypt sounds interesting, and I went on a few scuba diving outings in the past, great fun! But other than that and the views etc, what else is there to actually DO there? (clubs? bars? women?)
Anyways.. thanx again for all the replies, appreciated
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.