Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Best First Date Choices...?

SoSuaveDude

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 28, 2010
Messages
211
Reaction score
3
okay, based on experience, what are some great dating environments you usually pick for a fresh HB? I'm 18, and I figure a restaurant would be too romantic, while a movie theater date might completely backfire. What are your opinions? is the theater decent? And I'm thinking about bowling or arcade, but those might be overcrowded with outside "competiton"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

runner83

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 22, 2010
Messages
1,098
Reaction score
47
Location
Australia
I think Falcon25 said something like:

Alcohol = Sex, Food = Sleep


Having said that though, if you are from the US and can't drink until you are 21 (?), then I would avoid anything "boring" like dinner or a movie.

Action date is best, since it allows opportunities for Kino. Ignore outside competition, since if she is really into you, she won't care.
 

SoSuaveDude

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 28, 2010
Messages
211
Reaction score
3
thanks runner! I figured that those were primarily Afc spots, and I guess I'll have to do an action date. does anyone have anymore advice?
 

Iceberg

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 19, 2002
Messages
3,110
Reaction score
136
Age
45
Location
Manhattan, NY
Runner is right. Action dates are best. I wouldn't worry about competition. She's YOUR date after all. If she spends the night talking to other guys, then obviously she's a skank anyway.

Bowling. Arcade. Skating. Music show (not a LOUD show, but more of a lounge scene where you can still talk). Art show.

I don't know what 18 year olds do, but I'm just thinking of places that won't require you to be 21. Alcohol is usually a part of my dates.

And you're right. Movie dates suck. And save the restaurant dates for real girlfriends, not fresh HBs.
 

SandHawk

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 1, 2009
Messages
592
Reaction score
16
Location
Amsterdam, Netherlands
I'm going to completely agree with everyone else. Bowling / Arcade / (ice) skating / walk in the park.

Action dates require a complete different environment than 'romantic' dates. Instead of creating a silent atmosphere, it focuses on creating an atmosphere with tons of external stimuli. These external stimuli create great distraction for when you hardly know the girl and you want to focus on getting to know her and see how fun she is.

In case she turns out to be completely dull, a bit shy or your lose frame and get nervous, the environment and your activities create a nice distraction, allowing silences not to be awkward and still giving her the idea that she's having a great time(And you as well).

That, and what was said about food = sleep.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

rushing dude 123

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 13, 2006
Messages
930
Reaction score
19
Location
London
Yeah dam looks like you guys already got all the best ones, these are the usual ones i get the most advancement on chicks whilst on a first date and ironically they are the cheapest options haha.

Pool is another good one or i use to have a youth hostel where you could just sit down in the lounge if your a yearly member (dosn't cost much money). Then you can have a drink and watch a late night movie (which your not even paying attention to) with her whilst your just talking casually, this one worked quite well as well. Mini golf is supposably quite good from what i hear, but never done one seeing there is none in my area. I also did tennis a few times as well, which went quite well, but it really depends on the girl.

After you had these dates, which are fun, active, quick, cheap and don't take much thought. You then can start investing more time or money doing dates which are a bit more creative and personal like swimming, taking her to your house to watch a movie or teaching her how to massage, festival/theme parks, firework shows, zoo's, getting her to cook you some food at her place. There is a link below to another thread where DJ damage posted a huge number of options as well, which i recommend.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=115616

Btw way what do you mean sosuavedude when you say outside competition? If your reffereing to a guy picking up ur girl that usually won't happen unless i am on the scene haha, but that sort of stuff happens A LOT more in night clubs and stuff. If you mean competing with activities and trying to talk to her, it dosn't matter if shes distracted and having fun thats a good thing, just make sure to be a competitive and a be sore winner (because yeah us guys never lose to girls) to add a bit of spice to the bowling and arcade.
 
Top