"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Best First Date Choices...?

SoSuaveDude

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okay, based on experience, what are some great dating environments you usually pick for a fresh HB? I'm 18, and I figure a restaurant would be too romantic, while a movie theater date might completely backfire. What are your opinions? is the theater decent? And I'm thinking about bowling or arcade, but those might be overcrowded with outside "competiton"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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runner83

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I think Falcon25 said something like:

Alcohol = Sex, Food = Sleep


Having said that though, if you are from the US and can't drink until you are 21 (?), then I would avoid anything "boring" like dinner or a movie.

Action date is best, since it allows opportunities for Kino. Ignore outside competition, since if she is really into you, she won't care.
 

SoSuaveDude

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thanks runner! I figured that those were primarily Afc spots, and I guess I'll have to do an action date. does anyone have anymore advice?
 

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Runner is right. Action dates are best. I wouldn't worry about competition. She's YOUR date after all. If she spends the night talking to other guys, then obviously she's a skank anyway.

Bowling. Arcade. Skating. Music show (not a LOUD show, but more of a lounge scene where you can still talk). Art show.

I don't know what 18 year olds do, but I'm just thinking of places that won't require you to be 21. Alcohol is usually a part of my dates.

And you're right. Movie dates suck. And save the restaurant dates for real girlfriends, not fresh HBs.
 

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I'm going to completely agree with everyone else. Bowling / Arcade / (ice) skating / walk in the park.

Action dates require a complete different environment than 'romantic' dates. Instead of creating a silent atmosphere, it focuses on creating an atmosphere with tons of external stimuli. These external stimuli create great distraction for when you hardly know the girl and you want to focus on getting to know her and see how fun she is.

In case she turns out to be completely dull, a bit shy or your lose frame and get nervous, the environment and your activities create a nice distraction, allowing silences not to be awkward and still giving her the idea that she's having a great time(And you as well).

That, and what was said about food = sleep.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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rushing dude 123

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Yeah dam looks like you guys already got all the best ones, these are the usual ones i get the most advancement on chicks whilst on a first date and ironically they are the cheapest options haha.

Pool is another good one or i use to have a youth hostel where you could just sit down in the lounge if your a yearly member (dosn't cost much money). Then you can have a drink and watch a late night movie (which your not even paying attention to) with her whilst your just talking casually, this one worked quite well as well. Mini golf is supposably quite good from what i hear, but never done one seeing there is none in my area. I also did tennis a few times as well, which went quite well, but it really depends on the girl.

After you had these dates, which are fun, active, quick, cheap and don't take much thought. You then can start investing more time or money doing dates which are a bit more creative and personal like swimming, taking her to your house to watch a movie or teaching her how to massage, festival/theme parks, firework shows, zoo's, getting her to cook you some food at her place. There is a link below to another thread where DJ damage posted a huge number of options as well, which i recommend.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=115616

Btw way what do you mean sosuavedude when you say outside competition? If your reffereing to a guy picking up ur girl that usually won't happen unless i am on the scene haha, but that sort of stuff happens A LOT more in night clubs and stuff. If you mean competing with activities and trying to talk to her, it dosn't matter if shes distracted and having fun thats a good thing, just make sure to be a competitive and a be sore winner (because yeah us guys never lose to girls) to add a bit of spice to the bowling and arcade.
 
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