"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Best dating site to sign up for in your opinion?

Brighty

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Tinder only goes so far, and the girls I meet on there - while hot - are probably big sloots anyway. What is, in your experience, the ideal dating site to sign up for (money isn't an object here) that you've had success with in getting hot, successful dates?

Honestly I'm 23 and I feel like I've grown out of the "meet drunk chick while you're drunk at a bar, hook up, then form a relationship out of it" - the last two girls I dated weren't into the whole bar scene either and I like being able to take them to fancy art events and sh!t. I'd rather meet up with a girl for coffee and get to know her and see if she's interesting or not, a lot of the Tinder girls I meet just wanna get plastered and hook up, which is fine to an extent but I'm looking for something more.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SgtSplacker

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I hesitate to use the word "best" here. But the most popular ones are:

POF
OKCupid
 

El Payaso

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POF is full of trash. In fact, Tinder girls are better than POF girls by a land mile.
 

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El Payaso said:
POF is full of trash. In fact, Tinder girls are better than POF girls by a land mile.
He asked for a dating "site"..

But yeah I totally agree, Tinder is epic. I feel naive thinking all those profiles are real. But they sure do look real to me. Compared to a total sham of a site like Tagged where most profiles are fake. It looks really good...

I would go so far as to say Tinder has the best quality girls period.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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El Payaso

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SgtSplacker said:
He asked for a dating "site"..

But yeah I totally agree, Tinder is epic. I feel naive thinking all those profiles are real. But they sure do look real to me. Compared to a total sham of a site like Tagged where most profiles are fake. It looks really good...

I would go so far as to say Tinder has the best quality girls period.
Ehhh...."site". I guess if you want to be technical, yeah, Tinder isn't a dating "site" but you get the idea.
 

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I got a big ? for everyone about dating sites. Idk if this is thread worthy but I signed up for match last week. The 7day free trial. I will probably cancel. Thing is this, I'm thinking that they have a cap or restriction on how many girls reply to your messages back until after the 7 day free trial is over with. I sent at least 200 messages within 3 days. Only got back like 3-4 replies. Meanwhile other sites like pof if i sent 200 messages I would get more replies easily.

I know for a fact that Match has some hidden restrictions on free trial users until after the trial is done with..


Also to stay on topic, tagged is a joke lol. Try skout app it's pretty decent.
 

rum

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The best is eharmony if you're really looking for something serious.

match.com is pricey and has tons of good looking women (nice layout too) however it's got the most stuck up gold digging "no man is good enough for me" gold digging *****es

okcupid is alright. probably good for hookups and a few short and long term relationships. Girls are flaky on that site. Also too many travel *****s (zomg I volunteered in africa, lived in malawi, taught english in barcelona, built a library in botswana blah blah blah blah) Ever think the reason that you're single is that you never stick around long enough anywhere to develop a relationship?

POF- dumpster diving
 

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Eharmony biggest downfall I heard tho is that you cant browse for girls. They basically give you the best matches determined from their chemistry bs tests. I really dont like that so I doubt I would pay for that site.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I use OKC and Tinder. Both work well if you use good pictures and a sparse profile. Just try to get the number ASAP and it will save you a lot of time.
 

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VladPatton said:
www.ourtime.com

Gumjobs all day long, son.
hahaha

All dating sites are basically the same. Most of them have fake profiles. Some have a few better looking women than the others. Don't pay any money to talk to sub par women, but you won't find much on the free sites.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Brighty said:
Honestly I'm 23 and I feel like I've grown out of the "meet drunk chick while you're drunk at a bar, hook up, then form a relationship out of it"
When does that phase even start? When you're 20 or 21? Don't think you've matured out of that one just yet. I suspect many more drunk chicks at bars await you.
 

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Eharmony was a complete waste of money in my experience.

OKCupid is pretty good. I went on 3 dates in the first month of joining.
 

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I have done pretty well on POF. There are some skags for sure but I have gone out with and banged some pretty decent looking chicks. I think it depends a bit on your age group and geographic location.
 

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A man's online dating profile is only as strong as its worst picture.

But when you're on any site, you gotta try and make moves.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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