"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Best advice for an 18 year old male??

SoSuaveDude

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I'm 18 in college and am not sure if I should ignore the women and just focus on my future. Should I avoid LTR's at all cost? This hot 23 year old always ask me to get into a relationship with her but idk... Oh, and my major requires great commitment and lots of studying which even leaves my family on the backburner at times. Should I just worry about females later...? Me and the 23 y/o are pretty casual right now. We makeout and she's fun to be with, but i definately feel oneitis kick in whenever i depart from her... Like I'll be trying to study and then random thoughts of her pop up! I hate emotional attachment/dependence but I honestly enjoy her... What am I to do...?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mantis Toboggan

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You can have a healthy future AND women. It's not like seeing some chick once or twice a week will destroy your college life, leaving you in the gutter for the rest of your life.

Should you avoid LTRs? Not necessarily. Some people in your age group will cling to BAD LTRs, trying to save it because they're comfortable and scared to be alone. It's natural to want to stay with a girl you life. If she's cool. If she's not a burden. Of course it's also natural for relationships to end. So if things start going sour, don't feel obligated to "push through the tough times". That might be something to do if you're married (And even that is questionable), but for young kids....why bother?

And for your 23 year old ladyfriend....making out isn't going to cut it, buddy. That's fun if you're 12.

Anyway, you can have a healthy school life and a healthy social life. In fact, it benefits your career to learn how to balance work and life. No one wants to promote some boring workaholic who lacks social skills and charisma to a CEO, right?
 

Alle_Gory

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You lose money chasing women but you don't lose women chasing money.

If she cares about you she won't get in between you and your studies. I say go for it but keep in mind why you're in school. If she constantly tries to pull your attention away from your work, then drop her. It's about balance.
 

Julius_Seizeher

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The best advice I can give an 18 year old is to find your mission and don't let life distract you along the way.

So enjoy women, let them be a good thing to do when you aren't working.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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bluenorther

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Even if you're not fncking her, which makes no sense, it's healthy for your mind. Having her as a mental anchor helps keep you sane and stable.
 
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