"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Best advice for an 18 year old male??

SoSuaveDude

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I'm 18 in college and am not sure if I should ignore the women and just focus on my future. Should I avoid LTR's at all cost? This hot 23 year old always ask me to get into a relationship with her but idk... Oh, and my major requires great commitment and lots of studying which even leaves my family on the backburner at times. Should I just worry about females later...? Me and the 23 y/o are pretty casual right now. We makeout and she's fun to be with, but i definately feel oneitis kick in whenever i depart from her... Like I'll be trying to study and then random thoughts of her pop up! I hate emotional attachment/dependence but I honestly enjoy her... What am I to do...?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mantis Toboggan

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You can have a healthy future AND women. It's not like seeing some chick once or twice a week will destroy your college life, leaving you in the gutter for the rest of your life.

Should you avoid LTRs? Not necessarily. Some people in your age group will cling to BAD LTRs, trying to save it because they're comfortable and scared to be alone. It's natural to want to stay with a girl you life. If she's cool. If she's not a burden. Of course it's also natural for relationships to end. So if things start going sour, don't feel obligated to "push through the tough times". That might be something to do if you're married (And even that is questionable), but for young kids....why bother?

And for your 23 year old ladyfriend....making out isn't going to cut it, buddy. That's fun if you're 12.

Anyway, you can have a healthy school life and a healthy social life. In fact, it benefits your career to learn how to balance work and life. No one wants to promote some boring workaholic who lacks social skills and charisma to a CEO, right?
 

Alle_Gory

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You lose money chasing women but you don't lose women chasing money.

If she cares about you she won't get in between you and your studies. I say go for it but keep in mind why you're in school. If she constantly tries to pull your attention away from your work, then drop her. It's about balance.
 

Julius_Seizeher

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The best advice I can give an 18 year old is to find your mission and don't let life distract you along the way.

So enjoy women, let them be a good thing to do when you aren't working.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bluenorther

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Even if you're not fncking her, which makes no sense, it's healthy for your mind. Having her as a mental anchor helps keep you sane and stable.
 
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