"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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azanon said:
Best to think of these "high prices" as paying for their time. What are each of you guys worth? I make almost $40 an hr in my job, so if I'm going to spend 1hr of my time with someone and I'm not getting anything pleasurable out of it.... guess what you are going to be paying? :)

My point is simply this; Don't think of it as their knowledge (which seems expensive) vs. what you can find online for free. The difference of this comparison that you guys are missing is that with one of these options, you have an actual person there specifically just for you using their valuable time just for you. That's time he could be using somewhere else, perhaps making money doing something else.

Personal coaches (for anything) are expensive and to be completely honest, thought of as a luxury. The going rate for tennis coaches here ranges from $35-40/hr. I can't see why it'd be any different with a weight lifting coach.
It is obvious that you are a man of high intellect and common sense. There is a reason why you make $40/hr in your profession.

Some guys can research everything on their own, workout with dedication at the gym, and get great results.

However, most give up after 2 weeks. That's why the gyms are filled up after new years eve and empty 2 weeks later.

I get it now. The negative lowlifes here that are attacking me cannot understand the concept of personal coaches because they themselves work menial jobs.

I have a proven track record of getting results for my clients. Clients that would have given up if they worked out on their own. Some of my clients have trained with me for years and are still training with me.

Azanon, thank you for your balanced and informative post.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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EFFORT

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Muscle Guy the reason your getting flamed is because your coming here with an obvious agenda of advertising your business. From a business standpoint it would be a better idea to just post here and offer value for awhile without advertisement links in your signature. Actually help some people, show your passion in helping people transform there body, gain some respect. Then you can throw in a link to a blog, which has a link to your business. The way your going about it feels very spammy.

And I think its incredibly immature and disrespectful for you to respond back with arbritary insults about how much money people may or may not make. You posted a video on an open forum, the masses gave there opinions, no need to give made up low blows. Thats why it would of been a better idea to post on the forum before attaching your business and your name to it to get a general feel for what the people here are into. Then you could of created a market approriate video for this particular forum and potentially gotten clients or positive publicity.

Any how thats my 2cents. You also don't need to lash out at me or anything i'm just trying to give you some constructive criticism.
 

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shaunuk said:
yo EFFORT, u going on AIM much these days?

Not often man i've been playing a ton of poker going for super nova elite. Whats been going on with you?
 

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The Muscle Guy said:
The negative lowlifes here that are attacking me
No one has attacked you, only your video and your motives. However, congratulations, you just attacked a number of the most respected contributors to this forum.
 
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EFFORT said:
Muscle Guy the reason your getting flamed is because your coming here with an obvious agenda of advertising your business. From a business standpoint it would be a better idea to just post here and offer value for awhile without advertisement links in your signature. Actually help some people, show your passion in helping people transform there body, gain some respect. Then you can throw in a link to a blog, which has a link to your business. The way your going about it feels very spammy.

And I think its incredibly immature and disrespectful for you to respond back with arbritary insults about how much money people may or may not make. You posted a video on an open forum, the masses gave there opinions, no need to give made up low blows. Thats why it would of been a better idea to post on the forum before attaching your business and your name to it to get a general feel for what the people here are into. Then you could of created a market approriate video for this particular forum and potentially gotten clients or positive publicity.

Any how thats my 2cents. You also don't need to lash out at me or anything i'm just trying to give you some constructive criticism.
Thank you for your constructive criticism.

I always appreciate constructive criticism. I will grow from your post.

You bring up a good point. I should have gotten a general feel for the forum first before posting videos.

Lesson learned.

For the members of Sosuave I would like to offer my help in the area of building an athletic body.

In my own personal experience, having a naturally muscular body boosts self esteem and helps with the ladies greatly.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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EFFORT

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The Muscle Guy said:
Thank you for your constructive criticism.

I always appreciate constructive criticism. I will grow from your post.

You bring up a good point. I should have gotten a general feel for the forum first before posting videos.

Lesson learned.

For the members of Sosuave I would like to offer my help in the area of building an athletic body.

In my own personal experience, having a naturally muscular body boosts self esteem and helps with the ladies greatly.
I respect this a lot. See you on the forums!
 

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If you want to arch your back and stick your ass in the air to reduce the distance the barbell travels, good for you.

In my video am I showing you how to get the most weight in a bench press?

NO

My video is showing me (with a shoulder injury from boxing: torn labrum) performing a bench press exercise with minimal stress to the shoulders.

In other words, a safe effective way of performing the bench press.
What's unsafe about the way Dave Tate says to bench press? The point of bench pressing like he says is to take the stres off the shoulders and have a technique that won't ruin your shoulders. Arching the back and getting your ass off the bench does not push the strain onto the shoulders, in fact it alleviates it by emphasising the lats as being the base to press from, not the shoulders. I find that not arching the back means that my upper back muscles become loose, and my form degrades, putting more stress on the shoulders.
 
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CaptainJ said:
What's unsafe about the way Dave Tate says to bench press? The point of bench pressing like he says is to take the stres off the shoulders and have a technique that won't ruin your shoulders. Arching the back and getting your ass off the bench does not push the strain onto the shoulders, in fact it alleviates it by emphasising the lats as being the base to press from, not the shoulders. I find that not arching the back means that my upper back muscles become loose, and my form degrades, putting more stress on the shoulders.
I agree with you that bringing your scapula (shoulder blades) together reduces the stress on the shoulders for the bench press.

However, when your glutes are off the bench, it puts a lot of pressure on your back. You are a lot more stable with your butt on the bench.
 

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Dave doesn't advocate the lifting of the glutes off the bench....If a powerlifter ever did that it would result in a failed lift. They arch there back creating a bowing effect but the glutes are always on the bench.

Someone else also mentioned that there is NO powerlifter or bodybuilder way of benching and they were correct.
 
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Drum&Bass said:
Dave doesn't advocate the lifting of the glutes off the bench....If a powerlifter ever did that it would result in a failed lift. They arch there back creating a bowing effect but the glutes are always on the bench.

Someone else also mentioned that there is NO powerlifter or bodybuilder way of benching and they were correct.
Read captain's post. He wrote that dave tate says to lift your butt off the bench. I was responding to him.

Bodybuilders train for size, powerlifters train for strength.

You also have to keep in mind the target market.

Dave Tate is a great instructor for powerlifters. He can add 50lbs to your lifts.

My clients couldn't care less about increasing their bench press. They want a body that's attractive to the opposite sex.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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