Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
I know that I lift my butt off the bench in this, but any other form flaws that you can see?
Vid Benching 185 @ 150
Vid Benching 185 @ 150
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
God no. Never lock your joints out when lifting weights. Doing so causes the stress to be transferred through the joint instead of the muscle. Bad drills.Kerpal said:I thought you were supposed to lock out your elbows at the top?![]()
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Espi said:I don't see much of a problem with locking out your elbows, but I do think the weight is way too heavy...you're raising your back off the bench. That's a tale-tell sign the weight is too much.
Cut the weight back to 35's on each side and see if you can perform 8 reps per set.
Try spacing your arms farther apart...a little wider than shoulder's length.
Also, you might want to try incline dumbbell presses.
Skilla_Staz said:I think I might start brining my knees up, like you would if you were going to do a crunch. My coach had us doing that during the summer and its damn impossible to over arch your back and bring your butt off the seat.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your coach had you doing this?Skilla_Staz said:I think I might start brining my knees up, like you would if you were going to do a crunch. My coach had us doing that during the summer and its damn impossible to over arch your back and bring your butt off the seat.
That's the problem with it...Skilla_Staz said:Just kidding? lol It seemed like it took all the other muscles out of it, and left with just the chest/triceps.
Espi said:Well, I guess I underestimated you. It looked like you had a 45 and couple of dimes on each side...when I raise my back, I know I'm lifting too much. Maybe it's a habit you've developed?
It's funny: I was going to recommend raising your knees...I think it's a good idea in order to prevent arching the back.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I only planned on doing 3 reps. I'm taking more of strength approach to this rather than "lets do three sets of 10 and hope we get big" type approach. My early sets are warmup reps of 5 or 6, and once I get into heavier stuff, I drop my reps to three.PeterNorthisawesome said:Ya I saw your other video of you doing 215 lbs deadlifting and I don't think your suppose to drop the weight like that... I also thought that your grip was too close and you only did 3 reps which means the weight is too heavy.
donjuanjovi said:Did anyone read that article I posted?
Why is it that you guys think that arching your back is a bad thing?
Peternorth - Why does only doing 3 reps mean there's too much weight? I frequently train in the 2-5 rep range in order to increase muscle fiber recruitment and dramatically increase strength.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.