Skilla_Staz
Master Don Juan
I know that I lift my butt off the bench in this, but any other form flaws that you can see?
Vid Benching 185 @ 150
Vid Benching 185 @ 150
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God no. Never lock your joints out when lifting weights. Doing so causes the stress to be transferred through the joint instead of the muscle. Bad drills.Kerpal said:I thought you were supposed to lock out your elbows at the top?![]()
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Espi said:I don't see much of a problem with locking out your elbows, but I do think the weight is way too heavy...you're raising your back off the bench. That's a tale-tell sign the weight is too much.
Cut the weight back to 35's on each side and see if you can perform 8 reps per set.
Try spacing your arms farther apart...a little wider than shoulder's length.
Also, you might want to try incline dumbbell presses.
Skilla_Staz said:I think I might start brining my knees up, like you would if you were going to do a crunch. My coach had us doing that during the summer and its damn impossible to over arch your back and bring your butt off the seat.
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Your coach had you doing this?Skilla_Staz said:I think I might start brining my knees up, like you would if you were going to do a crunch. My coach had us doing that during the summer and its damn impossible to over arch your back and bring your butt off the seat.
That's the problem with it...Skilla_Staz said:Just kidding? lol It seemed like it took all the other muscles out of it, and left with just the chest/triceps.
Espi said:Well, I guess I underestimated you. It looked like you had a 45 and couple of dimes on each side...when I raise my back, I know I'm lifting too much. Maybe it's a habit you've developed?
It's funny: I was going to recommend raising your knees...I think it's a good idea in order to prevent arching the back.
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I only planned on doing 3 reps. I'm taking more of strength approach to this rather than "lets do three sets of 10 and hope we get big" type approach. My early sets are warmup reps of 5 or 6, and once I get into heavier stuff, I drop my reps to three.PeterNorthisawesome said:Ya I saw your other video of you doing 215 lbs deadlifting and I don't think your suppose to drop the weight like that... I also thought that your grip was too close and you only did 3 reps which means the weight is too heavy.
donjuanjovi said:Did anyone read that article I posted?
Why is it that you guys think that arching your back is a bad thing?
Peternorth - Why does only doing 3 reps mean there's too much weight? I frequently train in the 2-5 rep range in order to increase muscle fiber recruitment and dramatically increase strength.
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