Being "Weird" or "Different"

[Kriscam23]

So Suave,

I want the know the reason or cause of being perceived as being negatively called "weird" or "different". To me things are not good things for a DJ to be called.

I'm a attractive guy at my school, girls literally stalk me sometimes...but when they meet me I feel like the attraction always waivers away. Many time I've been called different, but being different does not attract more females.

Of course I want to be my own man and be unique, but when does it past to socially awkward and weird? These aren't good attributes to have in my opinion.

How can I change this?

 

[BrownBear]

What are the good things for a DJ to be called ?

 

[FairShake]

When you say "school" are you talking about "high school?" Because don't sweat being "weird" in high school. High school is a rigid place when it comes to social attitudes. There are clear lines and woe is the person who regularly crosses them.

Trust me when I say this changes in college and the real world. Being a weird or different guy is an advantage in a big city. Combine it with a nice and interesting personality and certain types of girls will be all over you. And they are the RIGHT kind of girls, not the brainless *****es.

 

[Bible_Belt]

You are what you are. My last name translates to "strange bird."

 

[Night-hawk]

Didn't we already discuss this topic in another thread.

 

[Kriscam23]

Hm. Interesting, but I was referring to college. Pretty big school, (Florida State)

 

[FairShake]

Hm. Interesting, but I was referring to college. Pretty big school, (Florida State)

OK, I will admit I am surprised it is happening in college. In college people are usually more eager to express their individuality (somewhat) and you can usually find someone more like yourself than high school. Plus people are growing and often that means more open to different things. Maybe Florida State isn't like this...

I think college is probably too late to not be "different." If you are different now you have probably been different your whole life. I don't think you can start all over in your 20s if that's who you are. I'd stop concentrating on being popular at this point. Concentrate on making the best friends you can. Guys and girls who don't give a sh!t if you're weird. Those are also the kind of girls you can date. I'd try to meet girls through your social circle. If they are friends of your friends they might tolerate a misfit better.