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And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

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Being valuable vs. being perceived as valuable

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Hey there!
Jhonny here!

I came across some videos by this woman.
She studies what women respond to, what they should avoid, and what qualities they should look for in a man.
She also talk about being in a good relationship.

In the video, starting from 9, She start to talk about the ideal qualities a good man should have:
Reliability, Financial responsibility, Vision + action, Humility and accountability, Emotional intelligence, Self-control, Security and stability

Good! But here’s the problem: How can women actually recognize these qualities in a man?

A man can genuinely have all these qualities, but if he has no way of showing them, he may be perceived as a loser. Meanwhile, another man can be average, or even fake these qualities, but have excellent “marketing” and be perceived as high value.
So, that only might explain a lot about relationships. A great product with bad marketing doesn’t get bought. A mediocre product with great marketing does.

I’ve experienced this mysel, and I'm pretty sure you too.
I was the same person internally, disciplined, mature, ambitious, but women seemed much more interested after visible “upgrades”:

Getting into a relationship → social proof
Improving my physique → halo effect
Buying a better looking car → status/financial competence
Growing my creative following → influence/fame

So women will experience emotions and feelings for a man who "SHOWS" he has these qualities, but it's as if they're incapable of understanding whether these qualities actually exist (consider how many women stay in bad relationships with a man who showed some qualities early on, and she hopes he'll change and show them again).
This means that women can't see these qualities, but they remember the feeling they had when that man pretended to have them, and showed to her.

Although there are exceptions. In fact, when I had enough one on one time with a woman, things usually changed.
Once she could experience who I was rather than judging me from the outside, that's when the attraction to me was born.
This is what should happen when a woman is truly attracted to a man and can't help it, regardless of whether he demonstrates certain qualities or not.

So:
Even tho people want to be rational, they don’t choose the person who has the best qualities.
They choose the person who provides the strongest evidence that they have them.
And so women do.
 

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@jhonny9546 "Good! But here’s the problem: How can women actually recognize these qualities in a man?"


In this day and age, remarkably easily... Any fella who scrounges up the cash for a smattering of Armani + Avoids developing a beer gunt is already light-years ahead of 98% of his "competition"
 

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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Your answer to being better with women can be found here:

Why Just 1% Succeed. The Habits That Make the Difference.

Back in The Game said it all. It's not about creating perception. It's authenticity and conviction behind your belief system and not wavering. Be the ROCK, not the waves.
 

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Damn dude...
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Why are you so concerned with what other people think?
What makes you think I do that?
I focus on becoming a better man.
But I’ve noticed that simply working on your qualities isn't enough; you need to show them to the world.
That ties into how you signal these things.
Pareto said: do 20% of the work and get 80% of the results.
Well, there are men out there who do that 20% and get that 80%.
I’m more the type who focuses 80% on the work and 20% on marketing.
Maybe I should flip that around, but I really care about improving myself every day.
The problem is, I can't seem to signal that effectively.
 

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What makes you think I do that?
I focus on becoming a better man.
But I’ve noticed that simply working on your qualities isn't enough; you need to show them to the world.
That ties into how you signal these things.
Pareto said: do 20% of the work and get 80% of the results.
Well, there are men out there who do that 20% and get that 80%.
I’m more the type who focuses 80% on the work and 20% on marketing.
Maybe I should flip that around, but I really care about improving myself every day.
The problem is, I can't seem to signal that effectively.
You don't need to "show" anything.

You go about your business and people will notice. And if they don't that's fine. Just worry about yourself and what you can control.
 

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You don't need to "show" anything.

You go about your business and people will notice. And if they don't that's fine. Just worry about yourself and what you can control.
This is a good advice, but we have marketing for a reason.
Products need marketing or they will stay in the market while other products are bought.
 
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