Do you think i should say what i like and not give a **** what they say or think?,maybe this is where alot of people are going wrong?....whatcha think?.
Communication and human interaction in general is quite a complicated process. To simplify it for you, lets break it down into non verbal and verbal communication and have a look at where you should work on first. Have you noticed how confidently you speak around people in general, what is your body language like, how about the tone and volume of your voice? In practice it's not so much what you say but HOW you say it. You could say a bunch of baloney, even if it's a bunch of baloney but you say it confidently then people will at least notice and listen(look at politics). Get out more often and interact with people with if you are generally insecure. Read books or study people who you admire as been confident and notice the differences they hold themselves compared to you (Anthony Robbins, Brad Pitt, your best friend who is a playboy).
That is first area you should take a note and focus on.
Next focus on your mindset, women sh1t and fart just like you and me. In you're head categorise them as if they are your "bratty little sister", this is a very compelling way of thinking. Would you care if your bratty sister called you names or thought you were been a dork? NO! You'd tease her right back, or scold her for been rude!
The next step to focus on mannerisms and behaviour which specifically attract women, that is been playful, flirting. knowing about comfort zones and been invasive, touching, getting sexual etc
Then work on verbal aspect of your problem, the what to say and when to listen to women such that doing so creates the most attraction. Practice the art of playful conversation. ****y and funny, active listening, storytelling, eliciting values, teasing etc.
Don't forget confidence and conveying confidence is the foundation for everything else that follows, otherwise it's a house of cards. People must first want to listen and consider what you say.
Now go to it!
