Being TOO nice doesn't work!

[Engetsu]

Be nice, just don't kiss ass. Respect those around you, and you will be respected. If you're not a natural comic, don't be. Imitation is mastur-fùcking-bation.

 

[Kaine]

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Originally posted by ryanvalmont
I'm confident and i speak well and am no sad loser who is on his own all the time.
It's just i get the feeling i'm alway's acting,pretending to agree with them with what they say and do...

When really i'm thinking something totally diffrent and am afraid to say anything bad or diffrent incase i make them dislike me and go off me.

Probally why i haven't done very well with the girls lately?.
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First step to solving a problem is admitting you have a problem. Then logically identifying what the root of the problem is and handling it.

You say you are AFRAID to say anything bad because you the might not like you. That is not confidence. There is a difference between choosing to be tactful and diplomatic vs kissing pu$$y for acceptance.

Example, you disagree with a bud, you say "Yeah Kaine know's his sh1t", you don't care what he thinks, it's your opinion and you stand by it. Then in the same discussion with a girl, but this time you go all doey eyed and mutter "Yeah I suppose, Kaine doesn't really know anything"

Does this apply to you?

Then reread my post, are you strong in all those areas? Unless you are more specific and detailed no one can diagnose your problem, so be honest with yourself take what you need and work on the area that needs work.

 

[Abbott]

Originally posted by ryanvalmont
I think the reason i'm getting no girls atm is because i'm TOO concerned about what girls will think of me if i speak my mind.

often i wanna go up to them and say stuff like "hey your real cute,but you'de look alot better with me"

Things like that i wanna say,but i'm TOO concerned with how the girls will see me.
Do you think i should say what i like and not give a **** what they say or think?,maybe this is where alot of people are going wrong?....whatcha think?.

Are you a MAN, or are you a pus$y-whipped little momma's boy?

Just say what's on your mind, unless of course you're the latter....



Take my example here. I don't give a damn if you feel belittled by that statement.

Seriously, it's not like you're interviewing for a job or something. I think tact is much less important here.

Here's another example of what to do:

HER: Eww....I hate that smoke. Go outside.

HIM: STFU, b|tch!

That is something I actually said at a party a few weeks ago.

Ben