"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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being taken more seriously

nubian-knight

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among my friends, im the guy evreyone likes to be around n chill with but im also the guy ppl like to poke fun at. not real bullying or insults, just typical bull**** like how i cant lift alot at the gym or that i have a little limp when i walk u kno, stupid sh.it


i really dont care since its all in good fun and its my boys, but this reputation has gotten me at "cute" status among the girls at my school since i am never one to really rail on anyone and am often considered kind of goofy


im just curious as to how i can be taken more seriously? dont get me wrong, if someone pisses me off for real i wont hestate to knock them in the face but playful chirping i dont mind, i just want to be take more seriously


any suggestions?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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d9930380

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**** them

Believe me, this stigma doesn't go away until you make it go away. And even though you don't mind it, it doesn't make you very attractive to girls.

You just need to play them at there own games. Make sure you have plenty of good not-nasty insults for your "friends" planned and when they begin to rip on you hit them with a few.

People generally goof on people in front of other people to make themselves look better (I bet they don't do it in private), so if they know you will come back at them then the reason for doing it goes and therefore so do the insults.

Don't be an easy target.
 

James Bondage

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Yeah I totally agree.

If you give as good as you get, (usually) it will make them think twice.
 

shydude

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Make fun of em!! Act cooler and talk to them face to face!! then follow m home and kill one of the friends that plays with u!!! That way they wil see how dangerious u r!!! COmen man!! And dont live any evidence behind becouse u might go to jail for life!!! My dad is aq lawayer so call me if u in jail!!!
 
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