being social-advice plz!

[suaveplayer]

hey guys,
Im currently working on being more social in school. I seem to connect with ppl well enough, but it only happens in school (basically when ppl are "forced together"). i cant get enough social interaction outside of classes. I know a lot of close friends and girls in classes and we have a great time but it seems to always end at that. and this applies to lunches too. sometimes i dont have ppl to hang out with at lunch, but if you would take every guy or girl that ive talked to earlier that day that would be willing to lunch with me, there would be a long line.

basically, how do i take that next step. any similar experiences? suggestions?

i hope i made sense.

 

[Mr. Red]

You have to get involved! Join a sport or a club in school. In my school the most sociable clubs are DECA, FBLA, SkillsUSA, Gaming Club (beware of super nerds), and Drama. If Drama isn't considered a freaky weird people thing then I highly recommend joining it. It changed my life, and my game, when I got the opportunity to make out with a chick in front of an audience of a hundred plus people (scary, I know, just don't faint in her arms.)

When you do join a sport or a club get to know as many people as possible as fast as possible. Just make small talk, they tend to be open to new/potential recruits.

Easy conversation starters:

"Hey, so what kind of activities are there?"

or

"Have you done anything really cool or gone anywhere while in DECA?"


After that when you see familiar faces at lunch just sit next to them and say "hey." See what classes they are taking or what their post high school plans are. Those are the two easiest topics to talk about.

Best of luck, you'll be fine.

 

[CaptainJ]

It's easier than you think to make friends. If you're only hanging out with these people in lessons, then do what you are already thinking of doing, go hang out with them at lunch. It's not like you are going to be shunned or shooed off. If you get on with them, they won't object to your company. Just make sure you don't stand there saying nothing except to chuckle at someone's joke, you will look like a loser. Get involved in their conversations and crack jokes etc. Act like they are the people you will naturally hang out with and they will actually start to think you are part of the group.

If you ever get the idea though that they want to ditch you (Shouldn't happen unless you are a social retard, which you aren't) then just make an excuse to say you have something important to do and you are busy, that way you blow them off, and they don't end up gossiping about you "OMG that guy always comes over and follows us, i don't even know him!"

 

[suaveplayer]

bummppppp

 

[Fluid]

serusly off topic, but i spend the past year becoming anti social, if u want i can tell u what i did and im pretty sure if u do the opposite ud be fine

 

[War Against Betaism]

Here's what I always do at parties, it sort of ties in with the 3 second rule, when you make eye contact with a girl you like, stop her and say "Hey! I know you!" even if you really don't know her. If she starts asking "Really? From where I can't seem to recall you?" Start making stuff up like "Oh man hmmmm I know I've seen you though," and just start the conversation from there.