"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Being shorter and getting respect

Crissco

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I noticed in certain situations I get less respect then people taller then me. Im 5'5. How do you shorter guys handle situations when they arise, and what do you do to DHV and stand out above those taller then you?

Crissco
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Crissco said:

And I'm skinny. Anyone that does not like it can fvck off. Most people are morons and respect from them means nothing. Stop caring, and people will respect that you genuinely don't give a fvck.
 

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You have a complex. You believe that people are more likely to be disrespectful towards you because you're short. In reality, it is your self-conciousness about your physical shortcomings that makes you become more defensive towards people.

By noticing signs of disrespect, you're magnifying them AND you're only feeding your negative beliefs about yourself. Try to only notice the times when people respect you and be apreciative of those time, this will magnify them and will create a whole new set of positive beliefs in you.

The only people that get offended are the ones that want to be offended.
 

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r0cky said:
You have a complex. You believe that people are more likely to be disrespectful towards you because you're short. In reality, it is your self-conciousness about your physical shortcomings that makes you become more defensive towards people.

By noticing signs of disrespect, you're magnifying them AND you're only feeding your negative beliefs about yourself. Try to only notice the times when people respect you and be apreciative of those time, this will magnify them and will create a whole new set of positive beliefs in you.

The only people that get offended are the ones that want to be offended.
Ill definitely try that. Thanks Rock
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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