Been going to this bar for the past couple of weeks, started going as my regular bar simply because it's winter and it's the nicest bar in decent walking distance for winter. Anyways, there's this girl that bartends there that's pretty cute.
Right when I first met her I introduced myself, and gave her **** and teased her about stuff. Met her roommate there who happened to be sitting by herself, and started talking to her roommate a bit and got her number. Both are hot, so I had the dilemma of choosing (stupid idea), which kind of kept me hesitant from being direct towards one or the other because I didn't want to shut any doors.
I've sort of been texting back and forth with her roommate, and I've met up with them like once or twice since meeting them, both at the same bar where she works. Only one other time did I meet up with them, and it was at another bar last weekend where I just randomly ran into them. Got some kino in and some teasing with the bartender girl, but nothing sexual. Didn't go for her number that time because I felt awkward getting it not only in front of her roommate but also because this other girl I'm fvcking (who I went to the bar with) was like 5 feet away hahaha.
Anyways, cut to this weekend. Went to the bar, got her number right away while ordering my first drink. Me and my friends stay there and get pretty drunk, then most of my friends leave and it's just me, my friend, the roommate, and the bartender who just gets off work. We plan on meeting at this other bar and my friend leaves to meet us there because he has a car. I was gonna go with the girls.
Turns out bartender's key broke off in her ignition! So she's bumming out hardcore (understandably), I try calming her down tell her she can call it in for night parking for the night and have AAA tow her car and get her a number for a locksmith, give her a hug and whatnot and tell her it'll be fine.
We walk to this other bar in walking distance, hang out there for a bit, then they take me home in her roommate's car. That night I text her being like "Hope the rest of your weekend goes better :-/. Let me know how the lock sitch turns out!"
God I don't know why this story turned out so long.
tl;dr version: I've been teasing this girl a lot and giving her a ton of ****, and got some kino in but not a ton. But I haven't really been sexual with her at all. I can tell she's really into me (when I ran into her at the bar she wanted me to come in when she was working and was like "I enjoy your company blah blah"), but I don't know if it's just as a friend or if she's actually into me or whatnot.
Basically looking for tips on how to change the frame so that it's completely clear that I'm into her, without it being weird. I don't think I've set myself firmly in the friend zone simply because I haven't seen her that much (maybe 4 or 5 times, mostly when she's working), and because this is just usually what I do with girls and it works out haha.
Maybe I should invite her out somewhere so it's just me and her and see if she takes it? I can't tell if I've established attraction, basically, which is making me hesitant to do that.
Dumb thread, IDK why this happens every once in a while to me but it does. Blah.
Right when I first met her I introduced myself, and gave her **** and teased her about stuff. Met her roommate there who happened to be sitting by herself, and started talking to her roommate a bit and got her number. Both are hot, so I had the dilemma of choosing (stupid idea), which kind of kept me hesitant from being direct towards one or the other because I didn't want to shut any doors.
I've sort of been texting back and forth with her roommate, and I've met up with them like once or twice since meeting them, both at the same bar where she works. Only one other time did I meet up with them, and it was at another bar last weekend where I just randomly ran into them. Got some kino in and some teasing with the bartender girl, but nothing sexual. Didn't go for her number that time because I felt awkward getting it not only in front of her roommate but also because this other girl I'm fvcking (who I went to the bar with) was like 5 feet away hahaha.
Anyways, cut to this weekend. Went to the bar, got her number right away while ordering my first drink. Me and my friends stay there and get pretty drunk, then most of my friends leave and it's just me, my friend, the roommate, and the bartender who just gets off work. We plan on meeting at this other bar and my friend leaves to meet us there because he has a car. I was gonna go with the girls.
Turns out bartender's key broke off in her ignition! So she's bumming out hardcore (understandably), I try calming her down tell her she can call it in for night parking for the night and have AAA tow her car and get her a number for a locksmith, give her a hug and whatnot and tell her it'll be fine.
We walk to this other bar in walking distance, hang out there for a bit, then they take me home in her roommate's car. That night I text her being like "Hope the rest of your weekend goes better :-/. Let me know how the lock sitch turns out!"
God I don't know why this story turned out so long.
tl;dr version: I've been teasing this girl a lot and giving her a ton of ****, and got some kino in but not a ton. But I haven't really been sexual with her at all. I can tell she's really into me (when I ran into her at the bar she wanted me to come in when she was working and was like "I enjoy your company blah blah"), but I don't know if it's just as a friend or if she's actually into me or whatnot.
Basically looking for tips on how to change the frame so that it's completely clear that I'm into her, without it being weird. I don't think I've set myself firmly in the friend zone simply because I haven't seen her that much (maybe 4 or 5 times, mostly when she's working), and because this is just usually what I do with girls and it works out haha.
Maybe I should invite her out somewhere so it's just me and her and see if she takes it? I can't tell if I've established attraction, basically, which is making me hesitant to do that.
Dumb thread, IDK why this happens every once in a while to me but it does. Blah.