"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Being sad or angry generates massive attraction

BeExcellent

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yep, and he has described as best he could the natural submission state that "most" females need/want to feel like a woman with a man.
It all is very primal. She desires you to provoke her and keep her in this state by your "frame" and your direction toward her, she desires you to decide in all things, to lead, especially sex... and if she steps out of line, take your masculinity away from her... if she puts effort to you, herself... reward her with your pride (especially in the bed).

I have dated a few women, mostly Russian or Chinese that exhibit the epitome of this, so much so that they desire and need your "presence" as @stormrider put it. They need it and crave your ability to allow them to feel this way.
This is a part of what I often refer to as "womens nature"

perhaps @BeExcellent could weigh in
Masculinity is massively attractive. Sexually attractive. However it needs to emanate from a man’s core, it cannot be contrived.

The bad boy type men of the player archetype master a certain look that women read as masculine. I’d call it a brooding sort of look. Part devilish, part troubled, part charming, part stoic, part serious. Look at photos of Matt Dillon from the 1980s; most any movie still from the James Bond movies, look at photos of most any professional boxer or fighter. But Matt Dillon captures it best IMHO.

My guy never smiles in photos. He has a gorgeous smile and an engaging laugh. But he never offers that side up to be captured in photos. It annoys me a bit as it’s fronting in a way...but he knows how to package his image and does it without thinking.

But understand something. Masculinity needs to be what you are at your core. You can’t fake it. Women have radar for posers along these lines. Posers will be recognized and dismissed quickly by women who aren’t foolish or insecure or intoxicated.

You can increase your masculinity by focusing on yourself and your mission in life and by being the best version of yourself that you are able to manifest and aspire to (this should change, grow, and expand over your lifetime)...as you mature as a man.

Women are drawn to that core. Some people will naturally smile & laugh more than others. Never distort your personality vis a vis your appearance so as to become incongruent. That belies your nature and is fake. Don’t be fake.

Be a man. Comport yourself like a man. Women will get tingly over a real, masculine man. Trust me.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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