Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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yep, and he has described as best he could the natural submission state that "most" females need/want to feel like a woman with a man.
It all is very primal. She desires you to provoke her and keep her in this state by your "frame" and your direction toward her, she desires you to decide in all things, to lead, especially sex... and if she steps out of line, take your masculinity away from her... if she puts effort to you, herself... reward her with your pride (especially in the bed).

I have dated a few women, mostly Russian or Chinese that exhibit the epitome of this, so much so that they desire and need your "presence" as @stormrider put it. They need it and crave your ability to allow them to feel this way.
This is a part of what I often refer to as "womens nature"

perhaps @BeExcellent could weigh in
Masculinity is massively attractive. Sexually attractive. However it needs to emanate from a man’s core, it cannot be contrived.

The bad boy type men of the player archetype master a certain look that women read as masculine. I’d call it a brooding sort of look. Part devilish, part troubled, part charming, part stoic, part serious. Look at photos of Matt Dillon from the 1980s; most any movie still from the James Bond movies, look at photos of most any professional boxer or fighter. But Matt Dillon captures it best IMHO.

My guy never smiles in photos. He has a gorgeous smile and an engaging laugh. But he never offers that side up to be captured in photos. It annoys me a bit as it’s fronting in a way...but he knows how to package his image and does it without thinking.

But understand something. Masculinity needs to be what you are at your core. You can’t fake it. Women have radar for posers along these lines. Posers will be recognized and dismissed quickly by women who aren’t foolish or insecure or intoxicated.

You can increase your masculinity by focusing on yourself and your mission in life and by being the best version of yourself that you are able to manifest and aspire to (this should change, grow, and expand over your lifetime)...as you mature as a man.

Women are drawn to that core. Some people will naturally smile & laugh more than others. Never distort your personality vis a vis your appearance so as to become incongruent. That belies your nature and is fake. Don’t be fake.

Be a man. Comport yourself like a man. Women will get tingly over a real, masculine man. Trust me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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