When I say I have no game, I don’t mean that I have no personality. There is a difference. I show up with my built in personality. I am mindless and unconscious about it. Everything flows naturally from my state of being and there is no wheels turning in my head trying to create attraction with women. There is no contrived effort.That's a line. You had the right attitude, and were spontaneous (I'm guessing). But it's the line and the compliment that did the real work, that got her to introduce you around. You were being easily sociable. Your attituse was attractive, but you still built the bridge. I usually find that guys who claim to be doing nothing are doing something.
Funny how you talked about how being content was attractive here, when that is the opposite of what the thread is saying.
Just to be clear, I view “game” as contrived effort that takes you away from your core personality.
Like right now I don’t feel like I’m doing anything but having normal conversation. Some guys are contrived and purposely try to seek validation and “likes” on this forum. Incidentally, these guys have the same attitude with women and that’s why they fail. I don’t try to do anything but often achieve it anyway.
Believe it or not, your best game will always come from a place of emptiness. When you are out of your head and effortlessly being, you’ll end up projecting the right attitude without any effort, so it feels like you aren’t really trying to do anything but being your natural self. The whole night just really becomes a blur and you will barely remember what you said or how you hooked women.
I can understand why some people might be confused. I leave a lot of details out because I assume most people will get the gist like I said before.
I promote beingness over doingness. If your beingness is off, your doingness is irrelevant. Effortless beingness does not mean being inactive though. It just means there’re isn’t any contrived effort to create reactions out of women. It means you are being your natural self (whatever that looks like) and not reaction seeking. Unreactiveness, indifferent to women’s reactions , being oblivious to people’s reactions, and being content and spontaneous - it all means the same thing, really. Or rather, it all points to the same direction. And people who are successful with women generally point towards that same direction with a few minor differences in details and semantics.
The challenge is using the right words to convey what I am trying to communicate. I’m trying to use limited vocabulary to describe a natural state of being that we all have experienced one time or another. Sometimes I switch back and forth using different vernacular (like Pua terminology).
Sometimes in my social circles, I literally would not say anything. And women would be like “I haven’t heard you say a word in months” and I would just give them a shrug. That just happened to be the direction my personality decided to go.
Some guys might even look at that and think “ the brooding mysterious guy gets all the girls” and even develop an entire game ideology out of it and preach to guys to stop talking so much because it’s supposedly beta and feminine *coughs* (this thread).
In my mind, im just being whatever I am supposed to be at the moment without a care in the world for how the women perceive me. if I am high value to them, they will just rationalize I am mysteriously charming or something. Or maybe I’m a “cool rebel” who’s above social norms. She can think whatever she wants, lol. It’s just backwards rationalization. And puas take this backwards rationalization and create a religion out of it.