"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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being positive, optimistic, carefree, and playful after becoming a mature man it's a challenge

jhonny9546

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Since I matured and grew into a man, I've also been following a CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) path to restructure my negative thoughts into positive ones, to turn negative mindsets into positive ones.
When you gain a lot of knowledge you previously didn’t have, you might start feeling depressed, angry, and even become more negative. CBT has been essential for me to maintain not only the knowledge I’ve gained about how to be a good man, but also to stay positive throughout this journey.


One thing I’ve noticed, and that another user also described here: link, is that maturity can often make you seem boring, no longer the young, lively party guy you once were.


Even though I still see men over 35 around me acting like the life of the party, always joking and partying, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are mature. In fact, most of them are still quite immature. However, they are the ones bringing energy to the room, making jokes, and being playful, and women definitely seem to prefer this type of man over a serious, mature one.


Now, my goal is to become a lively, fun, and playful man, while keeping my maturity intact.
I’m not trying to revert to being a kid again, but it’s also hard to be as carefree as I used to be.


How would you define being positive, optimistic, carefree, and playful after becoming a mature man?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Solomon

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I use to be that fun/carefree guy, then covid hit and I had to deal with multiple acquaintances dyng, family members dying etc.
The last 5 years have been rough, I also have shifted my focus moreso on financial freedom then going out on Saturday getting drunk and hoping I can meet a thick pawg for the weekend

I think life is all about balance. Like King Solomon said in the bible there is a time to party and a time to be serious. I would recommend to give yourself time to do things you thoroughly enjoy because you want too. Whatever that may be it's ok to relax and have fun once in awhile.
 

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Since I matured and grew into a man, I've also been following a CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) path to restructure my negative thoughts into positive ones, to turn negative mindsets into positive ones.
When you gain a lot of knowledge you previously didn’t have, you might start feeling depressed, angry, and even become more negative. CBT has been essential for me to maintain not only the knowledge I’ve gained about how to be a good man, but also to stay positive throughout this journey.


One thing I’ve noticed, and that another user also described here: link, is that maturity can often make you seem boring, no longer the young, lively party guy you once were.


Even though I still see men over 35 around me acting like the life of the party, always joking and partying, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are mature. In fact, most of them are still quite immature. However, they are the ones bringing energy to the room, making jokes, and being playful, and women definitely seem to prefer this type of man over a serious, mature one.


Now, my goal is to become a lively, fun, and playful man, while keeping my maturity intact.
I’m not trying to revert to being a kid again, but it’s also hard to be as carefree as I used to be.


How would you define being positive, optimistic, carefree, and playful after becoming a mature man?
Philosophy view.

don't worry. be happy..., its the words from a song.

its just perspective. that's a big word, but its all your talking about in this post; perspective.
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Physical view.

check our your hormone stats. specifically free T vs e2. Its a ratio thing. if your ratio is low on e2 you will become a little flat and lack emotion.. not in a good way. this is often the situation in men that are pushing hard on lifting and artificially managing the ratio. if your ratio is high e2, you will have too much emotion, anxiety and be reactive. this is the situation for most men in ltr that don't know what is going on.

just take a look and see where you fit.
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check out biohacking, groups of people working on exactly how to manage our own body and mind.
 

Hamurabimbi

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I’m mature (at least years-wise). And I’m optimistic, carefree & playful. In fact, to such a degree, that my GF has criticized me as being: ‘happy go lucky’.
Things just seem to work out.
God has been very kind to me.
 

Hamurabimbi

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I use to be that fun/carefree guy, then covid hit and I had to deal with multiple acquaintances dyng, family members dying etc.
The last 5 years have been rough, I also have shifted my focus moreso on financial freedom then going out on Saturday getting drunk and hoping I can meet a thick pawg for the weekend

I think life is all about balance. Like King Solomon said in the bible there is a time to party and a time to be serious. I would recommend to give yourself time to do things you thoroughly enjoy because you want too. Whatever that may be it's ok to relax and have fun once in awhile.
Other than being annoying, Covid has had no effect on my life nor anyone I know. And. I work in healthcare.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Since I matured and grew into a man, I've also been following a CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) path to restructure my negative thoughts into positive ones, to turn negative mindsets into positive ones.
When you gain a lot of knowledge you previously didn’t have, you might start feeling depressed, angry, and even become more negative. CBT has been essential for me to maintain not only the knowledge I’ve gained about how to be a good man, but also to stay positive throughout this journey.


One thing I’ve noticed, and that another user also described here: link, is that maturity can often make you seem boring, no longer the young, lively party guy you once were.


Even though I still see men over 35 around me acting like the life of the party, always joking and partying, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are mature. In fact, most of them are still quite immature. However, they are the ones bringing energy to the room, making jokes, and being playful, and women definitely seem to prefer this type of man over a serious, mature one.


Now, my goal is to become a lively, fun, and playful man, while keeping my maturity intact.
I’m not trying to revert to being a kid again, but it’s also hard to be as carefree as I used to be.


How would you define being positive, optimistic, carefree, and playful after becoming a mature man?
Some people are in their late 30s but really 25 years old maturity and lifestyle wise. I'm 39 but I think I may fall in the early 30s because I still feel that sense of freshness and newness. But I think maturity is all about priorities at the end of the day. If you're a Man whose got a good faith, got a good set of goals and purpose in his life and helps others in his own time, then you're good to go. If you prioritize having a family and settling down, nothing wrong with that, just be smart about it.
 

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Other than being annoying, Covid has had no effect on my life nor anyone I know. And. I work in healthcare.
One thing I find interesting is how COVID and post-COVID has affected different people
Some people like yourself it didn't affect at all (not mad that)
Some people like myself it did, but I think for the better, even with dealing with deaths, friend fallouts etc. It allowed me to "Lock In"
Some people it affected for the worse
 
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