Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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being positive, optimistic, carefree, and playful after becoming a mature man it's a challenge

jhonny9546

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Since I matured and grew into a man, I've also been following a CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) path to restructure my negative thoughts into positive ones, to turn negative mindsets into positive ones.
When you gain a lot of knowledge you previously didn’t have, you might start feeling depressed, angry, and even become more negative. CBT has been essential for me to maintain not only the knowledge I’ve gained about how to be a good man, but also to stay positive throughout this journey.


One thing I’ve noticed, and that another user also described here: link, is that maturity can often make you seem boring, no longer the young, lively party guy you once were.


Even though I still see men over 35 around me acting like the life of the party, always joking and partying, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are mature. In fact, most of them are still quite immature. However, they are the ones bringing energy to the room, making jokes, and being playful, and women definitely seem to prefer this type of man over a serious, mature one.


Now, my goal is to become a lively, fun, and playful man, while keeping my maturity intact.
I’m not trying to revert to being a kid again, but it’s also hard to be as carefree as I used to be.


How would you define being positive, optimistic, carefree, and playful after becoming a mature man?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Solomon

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I use to be that fun/carefree guy, then covid hit and I had to deal with multiple acquaintances dyng, family members dying etc.
The last 5 years have been rough, I also have shifted my focus moreso on financial freedom then going out on Saturday getting drunk and hoping I can meet a thick pawg for the weekend

I think life is all about balance. Like King Solomon said in the bible there is a time to party and a time to be serious. I would recommend to give yourself time to do things you thoroughly enjoy because you want too. Whatever that may be it's ok to relax and have fun once in awhile.
 

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Since I matured and grew into a man, I've also been following a CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) path to restructure my negative thoughts into positive ones, to turn negative mindsets into positive ones.
When you gain a lot of knowledge you previously didn’t have, you might start feeling depressed, angry, and even become more negative. CBT has been essential for me to maintain not only the knowledge I’ve gained about how to be a good man, but also to stay positive throughout this journey.


One thing I’ve noticed, and that another user also described here: link, is that maturity can often make you seem boring, no longer the young, lively party guy you once were.


Even though I still see men over 35 around me acting like the life of the party, always joking and partying, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are mature. In fact, most of them are still quite immature. However, they are the ones bringing energy to the room, making jokes, and being playful, and women definitely seem to prefer this type of man over a serious, mature one.


Now, my goal is to become a lively, fun, and playful man, while keeping my maturity intact.
I’m not trying to revert to being a kid again, but it’s also hard to be as carefree as I used to be.


How would you define being positive, optimistic, carefree, and playful after becoming a mature man?
Philosophy view.

don't worry. be happy..., its the words from a song.

its just perspective. that's a big word, but its all your talking about in this post; perspective.
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Physical view.

check our your hormone stats. specifically free T vs e2. Its a ratio thing. if your ratio is low on e2 you will become a little flat and lack emotion.. not in a good way. this is often the situation in men that are pushing hard on lifting and artificially managing the ratio. if your ratio is high e2, you will have too much emotion, anxiety and be reactive. this is the situation for most men in ltr that don't know what is going on.

just take a look and see where you fit.
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check out biohacking, groups of people working on exactly how to manage our own body and mind.
 

Hamurabimbi

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I’m mature (at least years-wise). And I’m optimistic, carefree & playful. In fact, to such a degree, that my GF has criticized me as being: ‘happy go lucky’.
Things just seem to work out.
God has been very kind to me.
 

Hamurabimbi

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I use to be that fun/carefree guy, then covid hit and I had to deal with multiple acquaintances dyng, family members dying etc.
The last 5 years have been rough, I also have shifted my focus moreso on financial freedom then going out on Saturday getting drunk and hoping I can meet a thick pawg for the weekend

I think life is all about balance. Like King Solomon said in the bible there is a time to party and a time to be serious. I would recommend to give yourself time to do things you thoroughly enjoy because you want too. Whatever that may be it's ok to relax and have fun once in awhile.
Other than being annoying, Covid has had no effect on my life nor anyone I know. And. I work in healthcare.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Since I matured and grew into a man, I've also been following a CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) path to restructure my negative thoughts into positive ones, to turn negative mindsets into positive ones.
When you gain a lot of knowledge you previously didn’t have, you might start feeling depressed, angry, and even become more negative. CBT has been essential for me to maintain not only the knowledge I’ve gained about how to be a good man, but also to stay positive throughout this journey.


One thing I’ve noticed, and that another user also described here: link, is that maturity can often make you seem boring, no longer the young, lively party guy you once were.


Even though I still see men over 35 around me acting like the life of the party, always joking and partying, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are mature. In fact, most of them are still quite immature. However, they are the ones bringing energy to the room, making jokes, and being playful, and women definitely seem to prefer this type of man over a serious, mature one.


Now, my goal is to become a lively, fun, and playful man, while keeping my maturity intact.
I’m not trying to revert to being a kid again, but it’s also hard to be as carefree as I used to be.


How would you define being positive, optimistic, carefree, and playful after becoming a mature man?
Some people are in their late 30s but really 25 years old maturity and lifestyle wise. I'm 39 but I think I may fall in the early 30s because I still feel that sense of freshness and newness. But I think maturity is all about priorities at the end of the day. If you're a Man whose got a good faith, got a good set of goals and purpose in his life and helps others in his own time, then you're good to go. If you prioritize having a family and settling down, nothing wrong with that, just be smart about it.
 

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Other than being annoying, Covid has had no effect on my life nor anyone I know. And. I work in healthcare.
One thing I find interesting is how COVID and post-COVID has affected different people
Some people like yourself it didn't affect at all (not mad that)
Some people like myself it did, but I think for the better, even with dealing with deaths, friend fallouts etc. It allowed me to "Lock In"
Some people it affected for the worse
 
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