"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Being Played or Being Paranoid?

MidnightResistance

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There's a chick where I work.
Shes shown interest in my for the past...6 months now.
last week I asked for her phone number.
Normally I wouldn't date people from work but I'm leaving next week, so this isn't an issue...

So anyway. I get her number.
The next day (at work) she tells me she'll be at home that evening, watching a movie by herself because all her family are out. She also mentions she'll be in from 8pm onwards.
I took this as a huge hint to call (as I had not called her yet) and maybe invite myself over.

So it gets to about 8:20 and I call. She picks up, sound very happy to hear from me, asks me to call back in 20 mins cos she's driving home from the stables she also works at.
I call back 30 minutes later. No answer.
I send a text for her to call me as I'm out of credit (which I was).
She texts back "Have gone round friends house to watch film. Will call you later if not too late."

I called up some friends and went to the pub.
She didn't call.


I'm in two minds about this chick.

The GOOD:
She's a total HB (I'd chalk her up as 2 notches on my score board)

She has been pursuing me for ages and hasn't let up, meaning she is definately interested. I am clearly the prize here.

The BAD:
Last night's calls have baffled me.

The UGLY:
She tries to indicate that she is 'hot property', although it's plain to see that she isn't in huge demand for some reason. Or perhaps she's just choosey?


I'm going to sit back and wait for her to call. This seems like the best course of action. What do you guys think?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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MidnightResistance

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*bump*

is anyone going to answer, even if it is to simply confirm my actions?
 

I'm Joe Dirt

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Sounds like she went to a friends house to watch movies. No big deal. They're not "all out to get you"!

Call back some other time and talk to her.
 

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Going to the pub is a good call! Beer solves everything.

Plus if she HAD called later, you would have been out and it looks better for you all round.

I'd proceed with caution and keep an eye out for other flaky behaviour, but other than that, I think you're doing fine.
 

MidnightResistance

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Maybe I just need to chill?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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