"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being persistent

Rhino22

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Well, there is this girl I really like. I have actually mentioned her on here before. She is very popular but I only know her through FB. I'm pretty sure she atleast thinks I'm cute. We have messaged a couple of times. She has "liked" my status several times. And this is someone who has over 1,000 friends, so she must be looking at my page.

Well, we don't message each other often but today she put up a status about needing a bass guitar. Then she said she got one. Well, I got mine not too long ago so I sent her a message just saying if she need anyone to lay down some bass parts for her I was her guy because I had been itching to do something with bass as I already play guitar in another band.

So she responded and said that she was just kind of learning bass right now, put a little smiley face and then said she would let me know if she needed anything.

I thought about replying with something about letting me teach her bass but the truth is I don't really play in a conventional way anyway. Should I just blow this girl off and message her another time?

I really want to start being more persistent. I know she is a "very hard to get" kind of girl but I am confident that I can get her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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kingsam

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Rhino22 said:
Well, there is this girl I really like. I have actually mentioned her on here before. She is very popular but I only know her through FB
so you dont really know her do you?
I'm pretty sure she atleast thinks I'm cute. We have messaged a couple of times. She has "liked" my status several times
'likes' means noting
. And this is someone who has over 1,000 friends, so she must be looking at my page.
shes obviously the sort who lives on FB, and probably checks out many peoples pages... soz to burst your bubble, you may be reading to much into "not much"

Well, we don't message each other often but today she put up a status about needing a bass guitar. Then she said she got one. Well, I got mine not too long ago so I sent her a message just saying if she need anyone to lay down some bass parts for her I was her guy because I had been itching to do something with bass as I already play guitar in another band.

So she responded and said that she was just kind of learning bass right now, put a little smiley face and then said she would let me know if she needed anything.

I thought about replying with something about letting me teach her bass but the truth is I don't really play in a conventional way anyway. Should I just blow this girl off and message her another time?

I really want to start being more persistent. I know she is a "very hard to get" kind of girl but I am confident that I can get her.
i wonder how many other guys are thinking shes hot and talking to her a little bit...just like you
 

Rhino22

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What other FB thread? Well, arent we optimistic ? She wished me a happy birthday today, so this chick obviiously doesnt think im some kind of a creep! I just need to play things out just right.


I talked to another girl on facebook starting last year and then a few weeks ago my band played on this 2nd floor of a loft. She was on the first floor and came running over to me to just shake my hand. Then she calls me the other night. This is a girl I only knew from facebook. So facebook is not irrelevant. Sometimes its the best place to meet people.
 

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Rhino22 said:
What other FB thread? Well, arent we optimistic ? She wished me a happy birthday today, so this chick obviiously doesnt think im some kind of a creep! I just need to play things out just right.


I talked to another girl on facebook starting last year and then a few weeks ago my band played on this 2nd floor of a loft. She was on the first floor and came running over to me to just shake my hand. Then she calls me the other night. This is a girl I only knew from facebook. So facebook is not irrelevant. Sometimes its the best place to meet people.
if youd have looked u may have seen this maybe?
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=172883

well if FB works for you ok, but 4 the vast majority of guys on here it dont...
facebook isnt good for dating... notied the amount of threads on this forum that start with "this girl on facebook..." and end badly...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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To add my 2 cents...I have slept with at least 3 girls I met via Facebook
 
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