"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Being persistent

Rhino22

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Well, there is this girl I really like. I have actually mentioned her on here before. She is very popular but I only know her through FB. I'm pretty sure she atleast thinks I'm cute. We have messaged a couple of times. She has "liked" my status several times. And this is someone who has over 1,000 friends, so she must be looking at my page.

Well, we don't message each other often but today she put up a status about needing a bass guitar. Then she said she got one. Well, I got mine not too long ago so I sent her a message just saying if she need anyone to lay down some bass parts for her I was her guy because I had been itching to do something with bass as I already play guitar in another band.

So she responded and said that she was just kind of learning bass right now, put a little smiley face and then said she would let me know if she needed anything.

I thought about replying with something about letting me teach her bass but the truth is I don't really play in a conventional way anyway. Should I just blow this girl off and message her another time?

I really want to start being more persistent. I know she is a "very hard to get" kind of girl but I am confident that I can get her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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kingsam

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Rhino22 said:
Well, there is this girl I really like. I have actually mentioned her on here before. She is very popular but I only know her through FB
so you dont really know her do you?
I'm pretty sure she atleast thinks I'm cute. We have messaged a couple of times. She has "liked" my status several times
'likes' means noting
. And this is someone who has over 1,000 friends, so she must be looking at my page.
shes obviously the sort who lives on FB, and probably checks out many peoples pages... soz to burst your bubble, you may be reading to much into "not much"

Well, we don't message each other often but today she put up a status about needing a bass guitar. Then she said she got one. Well, I got mine not too long ago so I sent her a message just saying if she need anyone to lay down some bass parts for her I was her guy because I had been itching to do something with bass as I already play guitar in another band.

So she responded and said that she was just kind of learning bass right now, put a little smiley face and then said she would let me know if she needed anything.

I thought about replying with something about letting me teach her bass but the truth is I don't really play in a conventional way anyway. Should I just blow this girl off and message her another time?

I really want to start being more persistent. I know she is a "very hard to get" kind of girl but I am confident that I can get her.
i wonder how many other guys are thinking shes hot and talking to her a little bit...just like you
 

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What other FB thread? Well, arent we optimistic ? She wished me a happy birthday today, so this chick obviiously doesnt think im some kind of a creep! I just need to play things out just right.


I talked to another girl on facebook starting last year and then a few weeks ago my band played on this 2nd floor of a loft. She was on the first floor and came running over to me to just shake my hand. Then she calls me the other night. This is a girl I only knew from facebook. So facebook is not irrelevant. Sometimes its the best place to meet people.
 

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Rhino22 said:
What other FB thread? Well, arent we optimistic ? She wished me a happy birthday today, so this chick obviiously doesnt think im some kind of a creep! I just need to play things out just right.


I talked to another girl on facebook starting last year and then a few weeks ago my band played on this 2nd floor of a loft. She was on the first floor and came running over to me to just shake my hand. Then she calls me the other night. This is a girl I only knew from facebook. So facebook is not irrelevant. Sometimes its the best place to meet people.
if youd have looked u may have seen this maybe?
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=172883

well if FB works for you ok, but 4 the vast majority of guys on here it dont...
facebook isnt good for dating... notied the amount of threads on this forum that start with "this girl on facebook..." and end badly...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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To add my 2 cents...I have slept with at least 3 girls I met via Facebook
 
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