"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Being nice or not

tilger

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Hi guys. So here is my question. I met this girl (22 yo) who I went to 3 dates with jer, all good sje likes me although she did most of the "chase" this past weeks. Did not have sex woth her yet. Tomorrow she is going for a week to visit her parents back home. The question is should i offer to take her to the airport to gain points and to show i am really interested in her or that actually could be a beta approach?

Thanks a lot guys
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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After three dates, don't go all 'nice guy'. Tell her to have a good visit. Let her enjoy the trip and don't interfere with it. Don't text or call. If she texts or calls you, keep it friendly and short. If she has interest in you, it will grow in her time away.
 

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Hi guys. So here is my question. I met this girl (22 yo) who I went to 3 dates with jer, all good sje likes me although she did most of the "chase" this past weeks. Did not have sex woth her yet. Tomorrow she is going for a week to visit her parents back home. The question is should i offer to take her to the airport to gain points and to show i am really interested in her or that actually could be a beta approach?

Thanks a lot guys
- First of all, can you watch the spelling and grammar errors when you type? It's hard to follow what you are saying.

- Second, you guys take these "labels" way too seriously. NO girl sits around saying to herself that he's a "nice guy" or a "bad a.ss", either she is feeling attracted to you or she's not. You can do what is universally seen as "a.sshole" behavior and she be attracted to you, or you can do what's seen as "nice" behavior and she still be attracted to you.

Looks, Personality and Finances, you want to be as high as you can be (on a scale of 1-10) in all three. That will make you attractive and once you are attractive, you can usually get away with a lot of a.sshole (or "bad a.ss") shyt....just as you can get away with being more of a "nice guy".

Nice guys don't finish last, unattractive guys do.
 

dustmuffin

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Hi guys. So here is my question. I met this girl (22 yo) who I went to 3 dates with jer, all good sje likes me although she did most of the "chase" this past weeks. Did not have sex woth her yet. Tomorrow she is going for a week to visit her parents back home. The question is should i offer to take her to the airport to gain points and to show i am really interested in her or that actually could be a beta approach?

Thanks a lot guys
No....you are not in a relationship. This is boyfriend behavior. Do what @Tictac said it is good advice.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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daddymonsterpoodle

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Do what you want to do. If you feel like driving her, drive her. If it is a long distance to the airport treat it like a date. It also let's you know where she lives if you don't already know. Don't be a chump but use the opportunity to flirt some more.
If you don't feel like driving her don't. She already likes you, so relax a bit.
 

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Hi guys. So here is my question. I met this girl (22 yo) who I went to 3 dates with jer, all good sje likes me although she did most of the "chase" this past weeks. Did not have sex woth her yet. Tomorrow she is going for a week to visit her parents back home. The question is should i offer to take her to the airport to gain points and to show i am really interested in her or that actually could be a beta approach?

Thanks a lot guys
She is only 22 years old. Not mature enough to know what she wants in a relationship yet. I wouldn't take anything seriously at all with a lady under 25. Their wants change with the direction of the wind. Date her have fun but after only 3 dates don't take anything too serious. Keep it light and fun.
 

EyeBRollin

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No. You've been on three dates with her with no sex. Don't initiate contact with this woman ever again. If she reaches out, invite her to your place. If she doesn't **** you, delete her number.
 
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