I see a lot of ppl who post about not giving a **** but I'm one of those guys who really doesnt I'm naturally laid back and women do like it honestly but my question is how does a laid back dude approach women successfully like in the mall or on the street? Because I usually find out women like me after the fact but when i approach...no love
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Being laid back
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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You can be laid back and not give a f*ck.
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You can be laid back but still be assertive and take action. Being laid back is defined by your attitude more than your behavior per se. Being laid back would mean you ask a girl out and if she says no you are cool with it and look for another girl. Not being laid back would mean you ask a girl out and if she says no you ask her why and start supplicating.
Speaking for myself, I am never nervous on dates, even first dates. No anxiety, no nervousness, and every date is pretty much rambling and bantering about whatever. The girl might not be attracted to me, but the date will be positive and not a freaking interview. To me that is being laid back, despite the fact that I get the girl to laugh and I can be animated.
Don't take being laid back to the extreme of being LAZY or LAME.
Speaking for myself, I am never nervous on dates, even first dates. No anxiety, no nervousness, and every date is pretty much rambling and bantering about whatever. The girl might not be attracted to me, but the date will be positive and not a freaking interview. To me that is being laid back, despite the fact that I get the girl to laugh and I can be animated.
Don't take being laid back to the extreme of being LAZY or LAME.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Hey man it's all about active disinterest. You don't need her, but you are going to be active about seeing if she wants some.
Download this pdf and search for "active disinterest", should be what youre looking for.
www.artofapproaching.com/download/main/ArtofApproaching.pdf
Download this pdf and search for "active disinterest", should be what youre looking for.
www.artofapproaching.com/download/main/ArtofApproaching.pdf