I see a lot of ppl who post about not giving a **** but I'm one of those guys who really doesnt I'm naturally laid back and women do like it honestly but my question is how does a laid back dude approach women successfully like in the mall or on the street? Because I usually find out women like me after the fact but when i approach...no love
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Being laid back
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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You can be laid back and not give a f*ck.
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You can be laid back but still be assertive and take action. Being laid back is defined by your attitude more than your behavior per se. Being laid back would mean you ask a girl out and if she says no you are cool with it and look for another girl. Not being laid back would mean you ask a girl out and if she says no you ask her why and start supplicating.
Speaking for myself, I am never nervous on dates, even first dates. No anxiety, no nervousness, and every date is pretty much rambling and bantering about whatever. The girl might not be attracted to me, but the date will be positive and not a freaking interview. To me that is being laid back, despite the fact that I get the girl to laugh and I can be animated.
Don't take being laid back to the extreme of being LAZY or LAME.
Speaking for myself, I am never nervous on dates, even first dates. No anxiety, no nervousness, and every date is pretty much rambling and bantering about whatever. The girl might not be attracted to me, but the date will be positive and not a freaking interview. To me that is being laid back, despite the fact that I get the girl to laugh and I can be animated.
Don't take being laid back to the extreme of being LAZY or LAME.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Hey man it's all about active disinterest. You don't need her, but you are going to be active about seeing if she wants some.
Download this pdf and search for "active disinterest", should be what youre looking for.
www.artofapproaching.com/download/main/ArtofApproaching.pdf
Download this pdf and search for "active disinterest", should be what youre looking for.
www.artofapproaching.com/download/main/ArtofApproaching.pdf