I see a lot of ppl who post about not giving a **** but I'm one of those guys who really doesnt I'm naturally laid back and women do like it honestly but my question is how does a laid back dude approach women successfully like in the mall or on the street? Because I usually find out women like me after the fact but when i approach...no love
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Being laid back
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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You can be laid back and not give a f*ck.
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You can be laid back but still be assertive and take action. Being laid back is defined by your attitude more than your behavior per se. Being laid back would mean you ask a girl out and if she says no you are cool with it and look for another girl. Not being laid back would mean you ask a girl out and if she says no you ask her why and start supplicating.
Speaking for myself, I am never nervous on dates, even first dates. No anxiety, no nervousness, and every date is pretty much rambling and bantering about whatever. The girl might not be attracted to me, but the date will be positive and not a freaking interview. To me that is being laid back, despite the fact that I get the girl to laugh and I can be animated.
Don't take being laid back to the extreme of being LAZY or LAME.
Speaking for myself, I am never nervous on dates, even first dates. No anxiety, no nervousness, and every date is pretty much rambling and bantering about whatever. The girl might not be attracted to me, but the date will be positive and not a freaking interview. To me that is being laid back, despite the fact that I get the girl to laugh and I can be animated.
Don't take being laid back to the extreme of being LAZY or LAME.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Hey man it's all about active disinterest. You don't need her, but you are going to be active about seeing if she wants some.
Download this pdf and search for "active disinterest", should be what youre looking for.
www.artofapproaching.com/download/main/ArtofApproaching.pdf
Download this pdf and search for "active disinterest", should be what youre looking for.
www.artofapproaching.com/download/main/ArtofApproaching.pdf