"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Being in STATE

Pozitron

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It would be great to hear the opinion of NorwegianDj on this one, but not only... (saying this because I know he watched the blueprint too).

So... YEA I'm in state man! Feels great . So basically it was a normal day and I wanted to go out alone in a park. Its kind of unusual for me just to go alone where there are just a lot of people simply because I usually go somewhere with a purpose.

Strange thing happened. I thought I'll relax, but I go out and I get this stupid feeling: like anxiety or something. All of the sudden I'm walking fast and all tensed up... I get there and just walk around. At that point I was just in my head, feeling that "fear" --- basically considering that people are judging you. Awkward. Never imagined it would be something like pushing my comfort zone--- guess I don't really know myself that well.
Anyway, I was clearly out of state.
What to do?
Well I thought of the concept of resisting and I didn't resist it. I accepted that feeling. Then I thought of that part of the blueprint: that scenario with your mind not giving you the instruction manual:nono: . So then , can't explain how.. I got into State.

It was great!!! So I was smiling "for no reason" ( never done it while waking along the street), making eye contact with people, walking slowly, being super relaxed and totally outside my head ( not 1 thought of how people think of me crossed my mind), just comfortable, chill and cool.
I have to tell you it was like a relief. It's really great to be authentic and genuinely happy, not wearing any mask... Whoa... Like letting go... It is cause I still feel the same way. Now THIS is JUST BEING YOURSELF. This is being the best of yourself.
I really can't describe it better. AWESOME! It's addictive.

Now, tell me if you had a similar experience ( I bet you had) and if it was similarly ( as in the way you felt).
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NorwegianDJ

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Dude, I cant really describe being in state.

I'd say there's several levels of state, and different forms.

State is said to be a relaxed, talkative, confident state. Your reaction time is lowered, you talk to people automaticly, you do what you want. It can be compared to drinking, just better.

It has a lot to do with momentum. Momentum is big generally.

Jeffy says "You dont ask if youre in state" "When youre in state, you're like IM IN ****EN STATE BTCHEEEES! WOOOOOOOOOO".

I know it as being really social, high energy, disregarding of outcome and really confident state.

It's like.. You dontt know how to describe it, but you definately know it when you see it.
 

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I don't know if it's because I'm 20, and I was 15 5 years ago, but I really couldn't follow what was going on here.
 
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