"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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schttrj

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Will keep it short and simple. I was noticing something now of late. I can approach anybody, however hot she is, but I do not feel that push from inside to do that. Like I am walking down the street or travelling by the public vehicles, I would notice a chick and I know and I can feel that I can approach this girl, what's the big deal! But I am not feeling the motivation or push from inside like that says you got to approach this lady or you must die. That being in state, like you are in the mood of approaching girls, I feel it only when I am already having much fun with my friends, or already if I feel the adrenaline charging inside me. I don't know how to push myself like that. Do anyone of you feel like that? How do you overcome that?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sleeping gives energy . High energy >> Good mood

Looking good , best of yourself >> Confidence

Being friendly with your friend and showing love to your family >> Good mood

So , you need some good sleep , confidence and be sorounded by love :D .
Also do something that makes you laugh , run , jump around the house , put your favorite music and dance like crazzzzzyyy :crackup:

Thats what puts me on state :D . It should work on you too :D .
 

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Here's something about state. You need to want something bad enough to get up and go for it. If you didn't, either you're a pvssy or you didn't want it bad enough. Eye contact will speak more to her than your state.

Story: I went to a stripclub and as usual felt really horny after I left. I stopped by at local taqueria for some food. I notice a hot number walk in with a very erection inducing dress. So with my horny as fvck state with at the club still lingering, I figured I could try to get some ass still. I did a decent approach, but still got rejected (the girl barely spoke english). Usually I don't do cold approaches, but I wanted it so bad, I said it's at least worth a shot. And it was.
 

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SickAgain said:
Here's something about state. You need to want something bad enough to get up and go for it. If you didn't, either you're a pvssy or you didn't want it bad enough. Eye contact will speak more to her than your state.

Story: I went to a stripclub and as usual felt really horny after I left. I stopped by at local taqueria for some food. I notice a hot number walk in with a very erection inducing dress. So with my horny as fvck state with at the club still lingering, I figured I could try to get some ass still. I did a decent approach, but still got rejected (the girl barely spoke english). Usually I don't do cold approaches, but I wanted it so bad, I said it's at least worth a shot. And it was.
Being in state will give you much better game :D . Trust me .

Always , before i hit the clubs i apply some methods to put myself on state .

I think being in good state and having energy is the key of MY GAME . (im talking about myself )

Anyway quick question . You guys know which guru teaches something about state/energy ? Any of them ?
 

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In always in state when I get up. :D

Then I go to school and it fades a little... Classes are boring sometimes...

But then I laugh like crazy and it goes back up! Yeah, me! :D

Avoid inactivity and hunger! These things get you out of state.

Search for music! It helps you in.

Another things that is almost essencial is to have all the basic needs fulfilled: Like hunger, thirst, sometimes you really have to piss... Just the little things that can or bug you!

So I always carry the things I may need: 3 or 4 bucks, water, bubble gum or tic tacs. (Kiss kiss! :p )

I'm almost always in state when I know I have it all!

Hope it helps you. ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think approaching is over rated. I've never really tried to do a cold approach and I've got no shortage of tail.

But on a sidenote, you don't have to be a slave to the pvssy. You don't have to be constantly trying to pick up women. Lead a successful life, have a great personality and people will flock to you.

However leading a successful life is easier said than done. Its a never ending job.
 

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Being "in state" has a lot to do in my experience with testosterone levels in the body.
 

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MacAvoy said:
I think approaching is over rated. I've never really tried to do a cold approach and I've got no shortage of tail.

But on a sidenote, you don't have to be a slave to the pvssy. You don't have to be constantly trying to pick up women. Lead a successful life, have a great personality and people will flock to you.

However leading a successful life is easier said than done. Its a never ending job.

i agree with this other than approaching being overrated.

some people have social anxiety or not use to being around others. COLD APPROACHING not just women but even men to start conversations will def. help that type of individual in social environments.

not to mention giving confidence to that person.

the 3 second rule is a wonderful tool IMO. use it. APPROACH EVERYONE.

HAVE FUN.
 

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DavenJuan said:
i agree with this other than approaching being overrated.

some people have social anxiety or not use to being around others. COLD APPROACHING not just women but even men to start conversations will def. help that type of individual in social environments.

not to mention giving confidence to that person.

the 3 second rule is a wonderful tool IMO. use it. APPROACH EVERYONE.

HAVE FUN.
haha I love how you always disagree with me. I actually enjoy it a tonne because your not disagreeing with me for the sake of it but actually bring a different perspective.

I also agree with your perspective in this case.
 

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I think the best way to get in state is by not trying to get in state and accepting what is.

Also, having a black eye does wonders, but that's another story.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MacAvoy said:
haha I love how you always disagree with me. I actually enjoy it a tonne because your not disagreeing with me for the sake of it but actually bring a different perspective.

I also agree with your perspective in this case.
lol its funny you mention that because i was thinking " wow, i always seem to follow mac in his posts but always opposing his opinion lately"

its true about different perspectives. thats what i love about this place. things that i was convinced were right, were brought to my attention in a different light and opened my views up on so many different things
 

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Tyler reccomends getting in state by approaching anyway. It's like you already have the blueprint to be a pimp but you mind wont give it to you. So you just keep approaching untill it does, like a schoolyard pummeling someone for their lunch money, you just keep approaching even if it hurts.

Much better explination on the blueprint decoded, I thought it was interrsting though.
 

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you need to rethink your definition of state. being in state has nothing to do with your internal dialogue forcing you to approach

and you don't have to be in a conscious hyper-aware mood to get results
 

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I go with DTP on the ways that he suggested. No Ready, its not that I am afraid of approaching but that its like I am not always ready for approaching, funny it is. Yes, I believe its because of the inactivity, I just need to get active and force myself.... but if anyone likes to add in any comments or posts, do advise me..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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