Will keep it short and simple. I was noticing something now of late. I can approach anybody, however hot she is, but I do not feel that push from inside to do that. Like I am walking down the street or travelling by the public vehicles, I would notice a chick and I know and I can feel that I can approach this girl, what's the big deal! But I am not feeling the motivation or push from inside like that says you got to approach this lady or you must die. That being in state, like you are in the mood of approaching girls, I feel it only when I am already having much fun with my friends, or already if I feel the adrenaline charging inside me. I don't know how to push myself like that. Do anyone of you feel like that? How do you overcome that?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Being in "state"`
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
Sleeping gives energy . High energy >> Good mood
Looking good , best of yourself >> Confidence
Being friendly with your friend and showing love to your family >> Good mood
So , you need some good sleep , confidence and be sorounded by love
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Also do something that makes you laugh , run , jump around the house , put your favorite music and dance like crazzzzzyyy :crackup:
Thats what puts me on state . It should work on you too .
Looking good , best of yourself >> Confidence
Being friendly with your friend and showing love to your family >> Good mood
So , you need some good sleep , confidence and be sorounded by love
.Also do something that makes you laugh , run , jump around the house , put your favorite music and dance like crazzzzzyyy :crackup:
Thats what puts me on state
. It should work on you too .SickAgain
Senior Don Juan
Here's something about state. You need to want something bad enough to get up and go for it. If you didn't, either you're a pvssy or you didn't want it bad enough. Eye contact will speak more to her than your state.
Story: I went to a stripclub and as usual felt really horny after I left. I stopped by at local taqueria for some food. I notice a hot number walk in with a very erection inducing dress. So with my horny as fvck state with at the club still lingering, I figured I could try to get some ass still. I did a decent approach, but still got rejected (the girl barely spoke english). Usually I don't do cold approaches, but I wanted it so bad, I said it's at least worth a shot. And it was.
Story: I went to a stripclub and as usual felt really horny after I left. I stopped by at local taqueria for some food. I notice a hot number walk in with a very erection inducing dress. So with my horny as fvck state with at the club still lingering, I figured I could try to get some ass still. I did a decent approach, but still got rejected (the girl barely spoke english). Usually I don't do cold approaches, but I wanted it so bad, I said it's at least worth a shot. And it was.
Daddy The Pimp
Master Don Juan
Being in state will give you much better gameSickAgain said:
. Trust me .Always , before i hit the clubs i apply some methods to put myself on state .
I think being in good state and having energy is the key of MY GAME . (im talking about myself )
Anyway quick question . You guys know which guru teaches something about state/energy ? Any of them ?
In always in state when I get up.
Then I go to school and it fades a little... Classes are boring sometimes...
But then I laugh like crazy and it goes back up! Yeah, me!
Avoid inactivity and hunger! These things get you out of state.
Search for music! It helps you in.
Another things that is almost essencial is to have all the basic needs fulfilled: Like hunger, thirst, sometimes you really have to piss... Just the little things that can or bug you!
So I always carry the things I may need: 3 or 4 bucks, water, bubble gum or tic tacs. (Kiss kiss! )
I'm almost always in state when I know I have it all!
Hope it helps you.
Then I go to school and it fades a little... Classes are boring sometimes...
But then I laugh like crazy and it goes back up! Yeah, me!
Avoid inactivity and hunger! These things get you out of state.
Search for music! It helps you in.
Another things that is almost essencial is to have all the basic needs fulfilled: Like hunger, thirst, sometimes you really have to piss... Just the little things that can or bug you!
So I always carry the things I may need: 3 or 4 bucks, water, bubble gum or tic tacs. (Kiss kiss!
)I'm almost always in state when I know I have it all!
Hope it helps you.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MacAvoy
Banned
I think approaching is over rated. I've never really tried to do a cold approach and I've got no shortage of tail.
But on a sidenote, you don't have to be a slave to the pvssy. You don't have to be constantly trying to pick up women. Lead a successful life, have a great personality and people will flock to you.
However leading a successful life is easier said than done. Its a never ending job.
But on a sidenote, you don't have to be a slave to the pvssy. You don't have to be constantly trying to pick up women. Lead a successful life, have a great personality and people will flock to you.
However leading a successful life is easier said than done. Its a never ending job.
BeyondCharm
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Being "in state" has a lot to do in my experience with testosterone levels in the body.
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
MacAvoy said:
i agree with this other than approaching being overrated.
some people have social anxiety or not use to being around others. COLD APPROACHING not just women but even men to start conversations will def. help that type of individual in social environments.
not to mention giving confidence to that person.
the 3 second rule is a wonderful tool IMO. use it. APPROACH EVERYONE.
HAVE FUN.
MacAvoy
Banned
haha I love how you always disagree with me. I actually enjoy it a tonne because your not disagreeing with me for the sake of it but actually bring a different perspective.DavenJuan said:
I also agree with your perspective in this case.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MacAvoy
Banned
Having a black what?Mavrick said:
DavenJuan
Master Don Juan
lol its funny you mention that because i was thinking " wow, i always seem to follow mac in his posts but always opposing his opinion lately"MacAvoy said:
its true about different perspectives. thats what i love about this place. things that i was convinced were right, were brought to my attention in a different light and opened my views up on so many different things
Tyler reccomends getting in state by approaching anyway. It's like you already have the blueprint to be a pimp but you mind wont give it to you. So you just keep approaching untill it does, like a schoolyard pummeling someone for their lunch money, you just keep approaching even if it hurts.
Much better explination on the blueprint decoded, I thought it was interrsting though.
Much better explination on the blueprint decoded, I thought it was interrsting though.
ready123
Master Don Juan
you need to rethink your definition of state. being in state has nothing to do with your internal dialogue forcing you to approach
and you don't have to be in a conscious hyper-aware mood to get results
and you don't have to be in a conscious hyper-aware mood to get results
I go with DTP on the ways that he suggested. No Ready, its not that I am afraid of approaching but that its like I am not always ready for approaching, funny it is. Yes, I believe its because of the inactivity, I just need to get active and force myself.... but if anyone likes to add in any comments or posts, do advise me..
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.