lokariototal
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Is being in love a big AFC mistake, or is just a critical component that needs to be there in a relationship with a girl? What do u think?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Being in love: for AFCs or for alpha men?
- Thread starter lokariototal
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
First, do yourself a favor and stop separating the world into "AFCs" and "Alpha men". Next, stop thinking that being successful with women means not having feelings.
It's NEVER about what you feel. Most of the time you can't change that. It's what you do about it.
It's NEVER about what you feel. Most of the time you can't change that. It's what you do about it.
I think this AFC/Alpha male thing is being blown way out of hand.
AFC = CHODE, YOU HAVE EMOTIONS
Alpha Male = NEVER COMPROMISE, BEAT YOUR GIRL TO SHOW DOMINANCE
Well not exactly, but you get the idea. Dude, it's totally fine to be in love with a girl that you're in a serious relationship with, if you are really an "alpha male" and not pretending to be an alpha (and I use the term alpha male loosely, I'd honestly rather just say "not a chode/pushover" or "confident guy" because calling someone an alpha male nowadays just screams tool in my opinion) there is nothing wrong with making yourself vulnerable by having affectionate feelings towards a girl you're seeing. You can still have the same "alpha" qualities you had before and still be in love with a girl, it doesnt make you any less of a man.
AFC = CHODE, YOU HAVE EMOTIONS
Alpha Male = NEVER COMPROMISE, BEAT YOUR GIRL TO SHOW DOMINANCE
Well not exactly, but you get the idea. Dude, it's totally fine to be in love with a girl that you're in a serious relationship with, if you are really an "alpha male" and not pretending to be an alpha (and I use the term alpha male loosely, I'd honestly rather just say "not a chode/pushover" or "confident guy" because calling someone an alpha male nowadays just screams tool in my opinion) there is nothing wrong with making yourself vulnerable by having affectionate feelings towards a girl you're seeing. You can still have the same "alpha" qualities you had before and still be in love with a girl, it doesnt make you any less of a man.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DonJuanit0
Master Don Juan
Best answer so far... W/e someone might be, Alpha male, AFC, blinded, in a wheelchair, waiter, life guard, W/E you can think of, have feelings which cannot be controled! Even if someone say that doesn't have feelings, it's a lie! He just pretends not to have or THINKS he doesn't have (which is a psycological problem).mikeyb said:
I can't recall if it was in this web site that I read that love is coming from nature and it's given to human so that he will stay with his mate, and protect him/her for 7 months till they have their baby (don't know why 7 and not 9 though)! It sounds pretty logical to me!
Even an Alpha can fall in love for someone!