"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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being her therapist?

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NO - Rule #x Never be a girls therapist.

"If you solve a womans problems, you become their
problem."

(How to Succeed with Women, Louis and Copeland)
 

Dayum itz jee

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im against it.. My thought is.. if you're a girls therapist you're her friend..
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Listen to the girl's rant but try to lighten the mood up asap.
 

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"Modeling will identify you in her mind with her past lovers and at the same time give you the advantage over them by being seen as the hero for listening to her and giving her guidance.".

Since when do we want to be associated with her past relationships? I don't need some screw up guy from her past influencing the way I play my game. I'm a new person, and I am the future, not a reflection of her past.

Me thinks the original author tends to be stuck in the hollywood view of "The Knight in shining armour", as he rides along to take his mistress away from the jaws of the evil dragon. Or some pre-school crap like that.

Can anyone say emotional dependency?
 

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bigneil said:
"If you solve a womans problems, you become their
problem."

(How to Succeed with Women, Louis and Copeland)
Yes i think that's the best. If she's distracted by other problems she won't complain about you or think of you as a problem. At least not as much. They have to have something to get worked up about or the world will end and it might as well not be you.
 
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