"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Being Hated by Women

Bvbidd

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Well not all of these girls are wh0res, some a really nice people.
But yeah they hate me.

I got a few who don't, who just brush off my sometimes overthetop nature as funny and just me.

Most on the other hand get really offended.

As for the bottle thing, I wasn't lecturing her, I was actually in a drunken bad mood then this loser wh0re came up to me got in my face, and I reacted in the drunken state I was in and started calling her a wh0re. (Which she indeed was.) After she struck me, I just left and cleaned myself up. I wasn't gonna hit her. The annoying thing was she started calling up all these AFCs to come "kick my ass". And they of course wanted to protect her and do anything for her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is it me or are am I in a sea of resentful, frustrated guys? Yes, women are hors. Is it better across the pond? No. Will there be some super amazing beautiful non-psycho virgin that sweeps LMS off his 45-yr old feet. No. You guys need to suck it up and learn to play the damn game. B!itching and moaning is not going to get you to your desired state.

What I'm saying is, the game is corrupt, yes that's true. But just like anything else there are winners and there are losers, and the way a lot of guys whine on this forum, I'm beginning to think most are, quite frankly, losers. Nothing wrong with that, per se, but if you guys are gonna chase your ideal self, than you need to change the bullsh!t attitude cause no one cares.

To the OP - You're giving off some kind of bad vibe. And why the hell are you getting into with 14-yr olds? You should've put her over your knee. Respect yourself damnit.

I'm out.
 

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Wait, who said this girl was 14?
 

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She was 14-15 I don't know which one.

But she was a well known wh0re since like 12. :down:

I was a bit younger then as well. 16 or 17 can't remember.

As for the bad vibe, I've had it my whole life. And have no idea what it is in the first place, so how can I change it without knowing what it is?

Some of these girls that hate me are good people, I don't want this sh!t to spread as much as it already does.
 

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Rex Man said:
Is it me or are am I in a sea of resentful, frustrated guys? Yes, women are hors. Is it better across the pond? No. Will there be some super amazing beautiful non-psycho virgin that sweeps LMS off his 45-yr old feet. No. You guys need to suck it up and learn to play the damn game. B!itching and moaning is not going to get you to your desired state.

What I'm saying is, the game is corrupt, yes that's true. But just like anything else there are winners and there are losers, and the way a lot of guys whine on this forum, I'm beginning to think most are, quite frankly, losers. Nothing wrong with that, per se, but if you guys are gonna chase your ideal self, than you need to change the bullsh!t attitude cause no one cares.

To the OP - You're giving off some kind of bad vibe. And why the hell are you getting into with 14-yr olds? You should've put her over your knee. Respect yourself damnit.

I'm out.
:up: :up:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm not complaining, I'm saying that the game is not what it seems to be. I play it, and always make things worse. When I AFC myself I get so much better results.
 

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Honestly, if you have hordes of women that seriously hate you, you are doing something wrong.
 

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i'd suggest a new circle of people man. damn.

that said, if you really want specific advise it would help to hear what some of your other interactions were like. teenagers are crazy, and drunkenly calling a ***** a ***** is going to bring down all sorts of problems.

but you talk like a lot of people hate you. give us a transcript of something that really went down. i can't even figure out anything about your personality (other than you're currently bitter). can't really offer advise either.
 

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Rex Man said:
Is it me or are am I in a sea of resentful, frustrated guys? Yes, women are hors. Is it better across the pond? No. Will there be some super amazing beautiful non-psycho virgin that sweeps LMS off his 45-yr old feet. No. You guys need to suck it up and learn to play the damn game. B!itching and moaning is not going to get you to your desired state.

What I'm saying is, the game is corrupt, yes that's true. But just like anything else there are winners and there are losers, and the way a lot of guys whine on this forum, I'm beginning to think most are, quite frankly, losers. Nothing wrong with that, per se, but if you guys are gonna chase your ideal self, than you need to change the bullsh!t attitude cause no one cares.

To the OP - You're giving off some kind of bad vibe. And why the hell are you getting into with 14-yr olds? You should've put her over your knee. Respect yourself damnit.

I'm out.
awesome, good post.

My thoughts exactly, Women feed off of what your mindstate is like and from how it looks right now, they are feeding off of your negative energy. That is why I continually have a chipper and good attitude that attracts people to me.

I think you need to do some soul searching and not calling people hors.

Like attracts like.

Serialized3 : Honestly, if you have hordes of women that seriously hate you, you are doing something wrong.
Good post as well

comic_relief
 

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originally posted by bvbidd
they have to respect me in the first place to get all worked up over me? Instead of just ignoring it and passing it off as nothing. That's what used to happen to me a few years ago they wouldn't care enough about me in the first place and just laugh at me or ignore me completley, now they just hate me.
..you remind me of my stepbrother...he ACTED like he didnt give a sh*t about what ppl thought about him....he would say whatever to chics, guys, whatever. ..but the truth is that he did care. He cared so much and that was is defense mechanism.

he was so mean and blunt that NO ONE liked him, NO ONE wanted him around. He was annoying.

point is...the difference is not actually trying to be rude, and mean, and nonchalant, ...you actually have to be confident in yourself to not care what anyone things because you know they are missing out, not you. You shouldnt purposely be rude and mean, only when its desired.

Step back and think about your approaches, your convos with guys and women, it sounds like you try too hard to be different that you come off annoying...

GOOD LUCK BRO
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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wutangfinancial said:
what kind of disgusing trash bags are you hanging out with?
These are normal upper class teenagers.

As for the last post, I've been really nice and been disrespected the same. I also know guys who are much bigger assh0les than me, and get a lot more respect. I'm begining to think, this respect thing may be innate. It may not be a reflection of who you are at all, and something more than that.
 

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From my experience, it's about being a bastard in a playful manner. I act ****y, tease, make fun of, and goof on just about every girl I talk to. But underneath, there's the mutual understanding that it's all in play, and we have that rapport to begin with that enables me to bust their balls, and enables them to take it, and dish it back out too. It's about being a smart-ass, not being an ass in general.
 

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That's the thing, I do this all in a playful manner.

What seems to be happening, is the gossip that gets around paints me as a very bad guy.
 

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Bvbidd said:
That's the thing, I do this all in a playful manner.

What seems to be happening, is the gossip that gets around paints me as a very bad guy.
You need image control.... you can't just go walking around calling people wh0res and expect them to like you.
I think your problem is you're wearin' your mind on your sleeve. You need to stop caring so much and understand that no one will like you if you tell it like it is. Instead of being mean, try to think before you say it and tone it down a couple levels, make it a more pleasent reality.

You might also want to reconsider the kinds of women you hang out with. A girl that would smash a beer bottle over your head has some serious anger issues.
 

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lol if anyone broke a bottle over my head, if i was still conscious i would stomp her out and let my crew take car of anyone who tried to stop me.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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ps some girls hate me. They may hate me, yes, but they ain't crazy, they wait till i leave till they let some reckless shyt come out their face
 

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Play the Game said:
You need image control.... you can't just go walking around calling people wh0res and expect them to like you.
I think your problem is you're wearin' your mind on your sleeve. You need to stop caring so much and understand that no one will like you if you tell it like it is. Instead of being mean, try to think before you say it and tone it down a couple levels, make it a more pleasent reality.

You might also want to reconsider the kinds of women you hang out with. A girl that would smash a beer bottle over your head has some serious anger issues.
I've only called a couple girls wh0res, and only when they deserved it. I have friends who call every girl they see wh0res to the girl's faces, and get nothing but pure respect. (The same girls BTW)

I'm telling you, this is not a reflection of who I am and something much more. I don't know what it is.
 

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Fingers, most of these girls hate me as a result of taking control. Not the time I called them wh0res, but times I hold the frame and tease the girls.

Your advice is what has put my in this hated position.

If I let them stay in control and let myself be an AFC, then I wouldn't be hated at all.
 

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we can argue back and forth like this as long as you want, Bvbidd, or we can try and figure all this out.

post a transcript of a cold approach, or post a transcript of a conversation that led to one of these terrible reactions, and odds are we'll be able to figure out something.

i'd guess you've got a bad vibe. if you're out in public thinking the same way you're posting here, then you're definitely giving off a bad vibe. but without a field report, neither i nor anyone here can really help you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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