Fellas, how do u all feel about being friends with someone you used to be involved with? Personally, I could not do it becasue if I talk to my exes, the AFC in me would come out and it would only set me back from meeting other women.. What do u all think?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Being friends with exes
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Well nothing's bad about it. But there is a saying that, if you keep doing what you've been doing, you'll keep gettng what you've been getting. If you really want to make friends with your exes (many huh). then do it right.
Add a spice, flirt, be coky and funny, and forget what drove you out of the line. Because even though its a past, they might consider it if you flert like hell. And its a very big chance you'll get laid.
or you can Buy an eBook written by Marius Panzurella or Ross jeffries, or David DeAngelo. A great start for you.
Add a spice, flirt, be coky and funny, and forget what drove you out of the line. Because even though its a past, they might consider it if you flert like hell. And its a very big chance you'll get laid.
or you can Buy an eBook written by Marius Panzurella or Ross jeffries, or David DeAngelo. A great start for you.
You can if both parties have completely gotten over their past feelings and truly enjoy other's company. And therein lies the problem most people can't bury their feelings regardless of how long the relationship has been over.
Bottomline friendships with exs never go anywhere because there are residual feelings that always seem to f everything up.
Bottomline friendships with exs never go anywhere because there are residual feelings that always seem to f everything up.
Totally agree with the past feelings thing. The way I see it, the only time you'll be friends is when the breakup is very amicable, which I feel in most cases doesn't happen. However, first time for everything, I just stopped dating a girl, and we literally broke things off when they were going well. Hooked up again once afterwards, and now things are well. I just went over to her house yesterday to watch movies, and nothing happened (although it might have had I pushed it).
The way it is is thatif you've done it before together, the likelihood of you guys doing it again is that much greater, even though she might not think it's a good idea.
The way it is is thatif you've done it before together, the likelihood of you guys doing it again is that much greater, even though she might not think it's a good idea.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
history repeats itself
Someone will always have feelings and it will never work.im no friends with any of my x's. When im done, im done. All contact is cut off.....but some time down the road she will always always call to see how your doing. But if you want to be her emotional tampon, go head and be her friend.
Never pursue a woman to be her friend. DJ's pursue to tap that azz.
Someone will always have feelings and it will never work.im no friends with any of my x's. When im done, im done. All contact is cut off.....but some time down the road she will always always call to see how your doing. But if you want to be her emotional tampon, go head and be her friend.
Never pursue a woman to be her friend. DJ's pursue to tap that azz.
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I gotta say that this is highly situational. I have a couple of ex's that I still talk to quite often. But they weren't anything serious for me anyways. I do not call or rarely talk to an ex LTR's though.
It depends on what you had and how it stopped. I mean if you dated a girl for 4 yrs and it ended bad than no you cant be friends. If this ex was a 2 month fling and you realized that you weren't compatible and just broke it off honestly than you can. In the latter situation I have formed some pretty good friendships.
It depends on what you had and how it stopped. I mean if you dated a girl for 4 yrs and it ended bad than no you cant be friends. If this ex was a 2 month fling and you realized that you weren't compatible and just broke it off honestly than you can. In the latter situation I have formed some pretty good friendships.
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Ah - The only ex I really talk to is my daughter's mommy. Good thing she lives 12 hours away. I hated that girl with a fiery passion for a couple years, now we can joke around and get along just fine....probably has to do with the fact that I have full custody and she feels the need to kiss my ass.
She still has the hots for me, though. She's married now, and she's always saying how she wants to come up and f*ck or get back together or some other crap that I won't do.
She still has the hots for me, though. She's married now, and she's always saying how she wants to come up and f*ck or get back together or some other crap that I won't do.