"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Being fat / out of shape and being desired by women

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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JLW

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This should be painfully obvious. In general, yes.
 

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Turn on your tv, watch some shows, reality or otherwise. See how many fat guys are with chicks, and how many fat guys are shown as sidekicks, douchebags, the guys without gals.

Unless you are super rich, or have cocaine, you better hit the gym.
 

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Falcon25 said:
Unless you are super rich, or have cocaine, you better hit the gym.
Will use when someone ask's me this irl from now on.
 

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I'm a stocky person and I've always been told that I'm handsome. I'm not really in shape but I'm not outta of shape. I don't think it would hurt to get in shape though
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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There have been some studies on this actually. Women selected men who had an muscular, slim build. Basically, you want to look healthy and fit because well that usually means you're eating the right amount of calories and getting some cardio and it's not a bad thing that women find it attractive. Being in shape combined with nice, pressed clothing should also help in your professional career too as it projects someone who is very organized and cares about his image. It doesn't hurt if you're on the taller side either.
 

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I got angry a few weeks ago. Really angry, and I turned all that anger into sports. I started climbing, doing push ups, and to be honest, I ahven't been this in shape since years. And all the sudden, I'm getting checked out ALL the ****ing time.

I feel awesome because I look awesome because I feel awesome. It's recursive! Sure, I don't super muscular since I've only been ramming my anger into this for 6 weeks, but dang bro, I shaped up a lot since I started this, and in other month, I'll have my six pack back, bigger shoulders and arms. And on top of that, when I'm hanging on that wall climbing up a difficult route and I reach the top, I feel powerful!
 

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Would you be turned on by a fat out of shape woman? That is your answer.

You don't have to look like pro body builder. Just be lean and have some muscle on your frame.
 

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women are okay with big bulky football fat types not the I sit on my ass and read comic books all day fat
 

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highconscienceness said:
Is this in general true? Women don't want a fat or out of shape guy? By want I mean just plain hitting on you.
:sigh. another looks vs game thread:

If you're fat and out of shape, getting in shape will markedly improve the quality of girls you naturally can attract, with or without game. It just raises the bar for the baseline quality of looks the women will have. Call it "leagues" if you want. Game will only net you women a point or two above your own level, so if you want 10s then you better be an 8 or 9 yourself. If you're happy with 7s and the occasional 8 then being a 6 with tight Game it's possible.

As a rule of thumb, the better looking you are EASIER it will be to attract women. and the ones you attract will also be better looking.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Here we go again. Just a Shot Away will be here any minute.

You will be desired by women when you're fat & out of shape if you're rich, famous, or have access to drugs. If you don't have any of those, you better have alcohol, hit the gym, get plastic surgery, etc.

The more of these you have, the merrier. You'll attract more women and better looking women too, giving you more choosing power and less bullsh*t like I have a boyfriend or LJBF.

Case closed.
 

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ive seen infield videos of RSD tyler picking up when he was like 240 llbs - pretty fat - and could still pull, tho he does have the tightest game.....
(intersting to see if the general baseline of hotness of the women fell during that period)
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nismo-4 said:
Here we go again. Just a Shot Away will be here any minute.

You will be desired by women when you're fat & out of shape if you're rich, famous, or have access to drugs. If you don't have any of those, you better have alcohol, hit the gym, get plastic surgery, etc.

The more of these you have, the merrier. You'll attract more women and better looking women too, giving you more choosing power and less bullsh*t like I have a boyfriend or LJBF.

Case closed.
WTF?

well no wonder JASA keeps popping up if people talk sh!te like this.....

thinking this crap just becomes a self fulfilling prohecy...
 

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How about get your fat ass in the gym and then you won't have to worry about it?
 

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highconscienceness said:
Is this in general true? Women don't want a fat or out of shape guy? By want I mean just plain hitting on you.
no, its not true.

I can show you how to get the 'legendary,forbidden jedi-like mindtricks ' of getting women to hit on you even if you are fat or broke. All you gotta do is visit my website PUA4suckers.com and make a one off payment of $199.99 and you will receive a 'how to get women to hit on you without even trying' e-book, body-language dvds and if that's not enough, we will even throw in a free superman coloring book with free crayons and a PUA badge.

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Nutz said:
:sigh. another looks vs game thread:

If you're fat and out of shape, getting in shape will markedly improve the quality of girls you naturally can attract, with or without game. It just raises the bar for the baseline quality of looks the women will have. Call it "leagues" if you want. Game will only net you women a point or two above your own level, so if you want 10s then you better be an 8 or 9 yourself. If you're happy with 7s and the occasional 8 then being a 6 with tight Game it's possible.

As a rule of thumb, the better looking you are EASIER it will be to attract women. and the ones you attract will also be better looking.
leagues?! seriously now this is getting ridiculous.

like Pook said: The high standards you apply to your desires must be applied to yourself.
 

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You can totally get 7's and the occasional 8 as a fat or out of shape guy, but these girls are going to have very low self-esteem and sometimes mental issues. How do I know this? Because I've pulled them as a skinny guy without much muscle definition.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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