"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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hey guys, i just wanna start off with saying thansk to everyoen for the awesome advice, and while im not quite there yet ive come a long way and i feel alot better abuot my life and myself :) Anyways since being on this site ive met my girlfriend who ive been with for 8 months. our realtionship is good...not alot of fights, not to much drama, just good times....and bommmb sex. and i was just wondering if you guys could give me some more advice on how to keep our relationship interesting and exciting. I.E i dnot wanna bore my girl. see the thign is is that im having a hard time incorporating that ****y + funny, player attitude in a relationship, cuz it just comes off to her as me being an *******....so im either that, or almost a total doormat, which i avoid at all costs. please help!!!!! i need to remain the man of the relationship, while not being an *******, and keeping us both happy. (not bored)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The point of ****y and funny is that you don't appear as an @$$hole. If you've done this and she didn't like it, then it was too ****y and not enough funny. You need a balance.
 
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You should be getting to know her well, and know what are rare and original dating ideas and all, so that shouldn't bore the girl. Also, ****y and funny is great at first, and throughout a realtionship in moderation, but sometimes you should be serious and talk with the girl about interestiing semi-deep subjects. Diggerent girls have different levels of ability to talk intellectually, but these conversations can often strengthen relationships.
 
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yea definitly, my girl is a big flirt and she likes to screw around like that which is somethgin i really love abotu her, but she can also be very emotional and serious, i guess i just need to learn to use the C+F and the seriousness in balance and moderation at teh right timings.....any date ideas?
 
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Well, my date ideas wouldn't really work for you cuz they are specifically in Ecuador, but a kinda common but lasting impression wouldbe made if you go to a concert of some group she is crazy about. Also, if you know how to do something, like surf, or paintball, or ride motorciycles, or something that she doesn't know how to, than you could set aside a day to show her how to. This works surprisingly well.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Dude, blow up someone's house or take some illegal aliens to the INS, she'll love you for it and find you shallow, but exciting and interesting nevertheless.
 
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