being exciting and interesting

[SnowBlind77]

hey guys, i just wanna start off with saying thansk to everyoen for the awesome advice, and while im not quite there yet ive come a long way and i feel alot better abuot my life and myself Anyways since being on this site ive met my girlfriend who ive been with for 8 months. our realtionship is good...not alot of fights, not to much drama, just good times....and bommmb sex. and i was just wondering if you guys could give me some more advice on how to keep our relationship interesting and exciting. I.E i dnot wanna bore my girl. see the thign is is that im having a hard time incorporating that ****y + funny, player attitude in a relationship, cuz it just comes off to her as me being an *******....so im either that, or almost a total doormat, which i avoid at all costs. please help!!!!! i need to remain the man of the relationship, while not being an *******, and keeping us both happy. (not bored)

 

[Anomalous]

The point of ****y and funny is that you don't appear as an @$$hole. If you've done this and she didn't like it, then it was too ****y and not enough funny. You need a balance.

 

[wavejams007]

You should be getting to know her well, and know what are rare and original dating ideas and all, so that shouldn't bore the girl. Also, ****y and funny is great at first, and throughout a realtionship in moderation, but sometimes you should be serious and talk with the girl about interestiing semi-deep subjects. Diggerent girls have different levels of ability to talk intellectually, but these conversations can often strengthen relationships.

 

[SnowBlind77]

yea definitly, my girl is a big flirt and she likes to screw around like that which is somethgin i really love abotu her, but she can also be very emotional and serious, i guess i just need to learn to use the C+F and the seriousness in balance and moderation at teh right timings.....any date ideas?

 

[wavejams007]

Well, my date ideas wouldn't really work for you cuz they are specifically in Ecuador, but a kinda common but lasting impression wouldbe made if you go to a concert of some group she is crazy about. Also, if you know how to do something, like surf, or paintball, or ride motorciycles, or something that she doesn't know how to, than you could set aside a day to show her how to. This works surprisingly well.

 

[Dimebag_Darrell]

Dude, blow up someone's house or take some illegal aliens to the INS, she'll love you for it and find you shallow, but exciting and interesting nevertheless.