Hello
Reading these boards alot for the last week or so, a lot of guys seem to have the problem of becoming too attached/dependent to one girl. They base all their happiness on her. If she calls and is in a good mood, they are ecstatic. If she doesnt call or seems a little mad for whatever reason then they automatically assume its their fault, or that she doesnt like them, and they sink into a deep depression.
Obviously this is not healthy, but i think everyone has experienced it; I certainly have. There are plenty of articles about it, but none of them really provide a lasting solution to the problem, or a good path of logical steps to take towards becoming independent. How does one become completely happy with themselves, without a need for anyone else?
I thought about this today. Imagine everyone you know, everyone you love. Your parents, your friends, your gf, your extended family, your dog...everyone, imagine if they werent there. Would you be happy? According to the belief that your own happiness comes from within you then yes you could still be happy. I have a very hard time believing this...yes I am quite dependent on interactions with others, i hate spending time alone and get bored easily (im an only child). Anyone have any thoughts/comments?
Thanks
Jonathan
Reading these boards alot for the last week or so, a lot of guys seem to have the problem of becoming too attached/dependent to one girl. They base all their happiness on her. If she calls and is in a good mood, they are ecstatic. If she doesnt call or seems a little mad for whatever reason then they automatically assume its their fault, or that she doesnt like them, and they sink into a deep depression.
Obviously this is not healthy, but i think everyone has experienced it; I certainly have. There are plenty of articles about it, but none of them really provide a lasting solution to the problem, or a good path of logical steps to take towards becoming independent. How does one become completely happy with themselves, without a need for anyone else?
I thought about this today. Imagine everyone you know, everyone you love. Your parents, your friends, your gf, your extended family, your dog...everyone, imagine if they werent there. Would you be happy? According to the belief that your own happiness comes from within you then yes you could still be happy. I have a very hard time believing this...yes I am quite dependent on interactions with others, i hate spending time alone and get bored easily (im an only child). Anyone have any thoughts/comments?
Thanks
Jonathan