"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What if I have no desire to lead other guys? After a certain age, if you still want to go around leading other guys, it's kind of odd. I think the best way to get something done (like get someone to do a good job working for you) is treat them with respect and give them space to do their thing, assuming they know what they're doing.

Lead a girl? Lead her where? That just sounds like a humongous liability and similar to babysitting.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why do I have to put up with being insulted by a bunch of dorks every day on this site? It's ridiculous.

So when that girl came over last week, she wasn't safe? Now I'm just wasting my valuable time arguing with idiots.
Richard. You’re the author of your own story. You’re choosing to be argumentative instead of humbling yourself while learning new insights which are in abundance here.
 

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That's why I'm saying it's not so simple. It requires many years to achieve such a level and it's not so easy as many want to make it look like.
It is simple, it's not complicated at all: Repetition and competency.

Doesn't mean it's easy, especially for men whose natural disposition is the complete opposite of someone who is confidence or has a tendency to lead.

Simple, not easy. It will require a lot concentrated effort to develop leadership and confidence skills for those who starting from scratch.

Building a skill is less about deliberating over how you are going to get where you want to go, and more about about taking the first step and recalibrating as necessary. Action is a prerequisite for results.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Exactly . That's why I'm saying it's not so simple. It requires many years to achieve such a level and it's not so easy as many want to make it look like.
I don't see anywhere where anybody said or implied it is easy. Like anything worthwhile in life, it is hard.

I was the farthest thing from a leader as you can get when I was younger. Now I tend to lead wherever I go, whether among women or men. This didn't just happen. I worked on my strengths and my weaknesses and eventually found myself regarded as a leader. In fact, people told me that long before I regarded myself as a leader.

At any rate, women crave and need a man with leadership qualities. The man who has cultivated those qualities has a distinct edge in life.
 

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First and foremost, I lead my woman and she happily follows.

I also lead a bible study at church, I lead a band, I lead a business association, I own two businesses.

But what is all this to you? Why is it so hard for you to believe that a man is a leader?

Far more important than the specifics of who he leads, is the fact that he carries himself as a leader and his own energy guides most interactions.

I don't understand the value and purpose you assign to this question. Did you think I was going to tell you I really don't lead anywhere?
 
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First and foremost, I lead my woman and she happily follows.

I also lead a bible study at church, I lead a band, I lead a business association, I own two businesses.

But what is all this to you? Why is it so hard for you to believe that a man is a leader?

Far more important than the specifics of who he leads, is the fact that he carries himself as a leader and his own energy guides most interactions.

I don't understand the value and purpose you assign to this question. Did you think I was going to tell you I really don't lead anywhere?
Because in Richards head, if he can't do it, nobody can. Or he want's proof.

"Show me pics of the girls you're smashing" - it's pathetic.

It's mental health issues.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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