Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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being called great guy vs nice guy vs azzhole?

rgeereda2nd

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Say a girl referred to you as a "great guy" (either directly to you or to a friend).

Is that a strong compliment? Or is it just as bad as her saying you're a "nice guy"?

What about being called an azzhole?

Which is better and why? Is it because women cant control azzholes? I know they can control nice guys and great guys, because these guys do as told?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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IsiMan84

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I would say the great guy is a step above nice guy because it sounds more like possible relationship material (don't quote me on that though), but any compliment is better than none so I would just leave it at that haha. But don't change your ways or anything; just keep going on like you have been.
 

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A 'great' guy is a guy with good potential and is already successful in ways that he wants to be. He is considerate but not a push-over. A great guy is a basically a successful nice guy!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ApocalypseCow2

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Look, being called a "nice guy" isn't even bad. It's all about how women treat you. If they call you a "nice guy" and sleep with you, you got nothing to worry about.
 

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I was called the sweetest guy by the girl I was in love with. Now I am single :(

Yaaa for nice guys finishing last!

:cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss:
 

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"If it sounds like a complement, then it must be."
-SDBmania

I'm a nice guy, who likes to tease, mess with, and bust on women. That's different from being a nice guy that showers women with praise and gifts and becomes an emotional heel.

I think it's a complement.
 

Lost In Translation

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nice guy = YOU WILL NOT SEE ME NAKED

nice guy = i can use you and abuse you and you will be my puppy

i hope this helps you :

Quote: il_duce
“B1tch is just another word for a confident woman who always wants to have her way.

A$$hole is just another word for a confident man who won't take sh!t from a b1tch.

Why do you think the majority of hot girls are reffered to as 'b1tches' and the guys who get laid all the time are reffered to as 'a$$holes'?

This is how I see it: the two words were made up as weapons to use against the opposite sex, and they're supposed to be insulting, but all they really do is compliment on the sexual prowess of that person.

In other words, it pays to be an 'a$$hole'. Imho, you can be an 'a$$hole' and still be a decent person. When you get around the negative connontation the word has, you will see the positive traits that these men exhibit which are attractive to women. “


Lost In Translation :D

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Sounds good LIT. I'd say don't do anything for her that you wouldn't do for anyone else early on in getting to know her, otherwise you do risk coming across as a desparate sap.

So .. Muppet, what did you do for this girl that made you such a 'sweet' guy? Give some background on this a bit would ya.
 

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I have twice turned "great guy" into a sexual relationship, but it took some work (they were worth it -- briefly) and I had to convince (read: fool) them both that I was looking for LTR.

In my experience (NOTE: bullmoose is coining a new acronym: "IME")

IME:

"Nice guy" means you have no chance and you never did.

"Great guy" means you have a chance but you've got to put your time in -- we're talking months of wining/dining/B.S.ing (or Ganjii techniques.)


"Azzhole" means you had a chance, but you will have no further chances.

Girls marry "great guys." "You''re a Great Guy" means she'd be interested in you for everything more than (but ultimately including) making the beast with two backs, and if she's available for this level of commitment you can do her -- well and often -- but only if you're the caliber of bast@rd who can shatter a woman's soul and destroy her life, then walk away whistling. Or you can develop one-itis and plan to marry her, and then leave your emotional well-being in her court for life.


Basically, if she puts you in a pigeonhole, you won't put anything in any of her holes.
 
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