"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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being called great guy vs nice guy vs azzhole?

rgeereda2nd

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Say a girl referred to you as a "great guy" (either directly to you or to a friend).

Is that a strong compliment? Or is it just as bad as her saying you're a "nice guy"?

What about being called an azzhole?

Which is better and why? Is it because women cant control azzholes? I know they can control nice guys and great guys, because these guys do as told?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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IsiMan84

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I would say the great guy is a step above nice guy because it sounds more like possible relationship material (don't quote me on that though), but any compliment is better than none so I would just leave it at that haha. But don't change your ways or anything; just keep going on like you have been.
 

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A 'great' guy is a guy with good potential and is already successful in ways that he wants to be. He is considerate but not a push-over. A great guy is a basically a successful nice guy!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ApocalypseCow2

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Look, being called a "nice guy" isn't even bad. It's all about how women treat you. If they call you a "nice guy" and sleep with you, you got nothing to worry about.
 

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I was called the sweetest guy by the girl I was in love with. Now I am single :(

Yaaa for nice guys finishing last!

:cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss: :cuss:
 

SDBmania

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"If it sounds like a complement, then it must be."
-SDBmania

I'm a nice guy, who likes to tease, mess with, and bust on women. That's different from being a nice guy that showers women with praise and gifts and becomes an emotional heel.

I think it's a complement.
 

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nice guy = YOU WILL NOT SEE ME NAKED

nice guy = i can use you and abuse you and you will be my puppy

i hope this helps you :

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“B1tch is just another word for a confident woman who always wants to have her way.

A$$hole is just another word for a confident man who won't take sh!t from a b1tch.

Why do you think the majority of hot girls are reffered to as 'b1tches' and the guys who get laid all the time are reffered to as 'a$$holes'?

This is how I see it: the two words were made up as weapons to use against the opposite sex, and they're supposed to be insulting, but all they really do is compliment on the sexual prowess of that person.

In other words, it pays to be an 'a$$hole'. Imho, you can be an 'a$$hole' and still be a decent person. When you get around the negative connontation the word has, you will see the positive traits that these men exhibit which are attractive to women. “


Lost In Translation :D

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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tmpgstx

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Sounds good LIT. I'd say don't do anything for her that you wouldn't do for anyone else early on in getting to know her, otherwise you do risk coming across as a desparate sap.

So .. Muppet, what did you do for this girl that made you such a 'sweet' guy? Give some background on this a bit would ya.
 

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I have twice turned "great guy" into a sexual relationship, but it took some work (they were worth it -- briefly) and I had to convince (read: fool) them both that I was looking for LTR.

In my experience (NOTE: bullmoose is coining a new acronym: "IME")

IME:

"Nice guy" means you have no chance and you never did.

"Great guy" means you have a chance but you've got to put your time in -- we're talking months of wining/dining/B.S.ing (or Ganjii techniques.)


"Azzhole" means you had a chance, but you will have no further chances.

Girls marry "great guys." "You''re a Great Guy" means she'd be interested in you for everything more than (but ultimately including) making the beast with two backs, and if she's available for this level of commitment you can do her -- well and often -- but only if you're the caliber of bast@rd who can shatter a woman's soul and destroy her life, then walk away whistling. Or you can develop one-itis and plan to marry her, and then leave your emotional well-being in her court for life.


Basically, if she puts you in a pigeonhole, you won't put anything in any of her holes.
 
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