"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Being Called "Cute"

flint

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I know this sounds like a stupid question, but when you're dealing with girls is it a good thing to be called cute? I'm not talking about like "oh you're cute but I just want to be friends", I'm just saying in general.

I'll fill you in on what I mean. I'm a short guy for example, so I feel like if a girl calls me cute that's the kiss of death if you know what I mean, because its like "oh cute like my little brother" (not trying to turn this into a height discussion). Or if I get kissed on the cheek or something I feel like that too.

Anyways what do you guys think? Is it good if a girl calls you cute or is it code for move on?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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eaglez1177

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Cute can go either way. To me its actually REALLY confusing lol.

What I do know is that cute can be said in either the sexual and attractive way or in the just friends way.

I get called cute ALL the time by girls, especially my ex gf she used to call me cute A LOT...luckily for me most of my "cutes" were in the sexual and attractive way.

But it is tough tho distinguishing which context the girl means (whether it be sexual or just friends)
 

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I'll like to say this is bull****, a lot the small/younger (looking) or anything I know get called cute, and you can just tell there nothing there, she may as well be saying as you said, you're cute like my little brother.

The fact that your short reinforces the idea that your being called cute because of being short, which isn't a good thing.

I think that when they call people cute it's very condescending, like your a puppy/little brother not a dominant DJ

Overall i think its a bad thing from personal experience of never seeing someone been called cute then it leading anywhere, and well being "cute" kind of goes against being a Alpha Male DJ

But I suppose it's all about how they say it you just have to learn the difference.
 

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usually girls refer to guys they want to fvck as "hot", "fine", "got it goin on" etc..

Being called cute is better then being called ugly I suppose, but it doesn't convey immediate sexual attraction.
 

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"Cute" will get you a second date, but probably won't get you a one night stand.

It's certainly better than nothing, though.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Well on the flip side I never hear girls calling guys hot to their face unless its in a kidding or playful friendly way. Girls aren't usually forward like that in my experience. However, they will say something like "you look cute in that shirt" or something, which is like giving a small compliment I guess.

But yeah I agree with analyze I kind of feel like if a girl is going around saying you're cute its like saying you're like a puppy or some bs. I will admit I do have a little bit of a beef with the fact that I'm really short, so it might just be the fact that I automatically go on the defensive. But at the same time I still feel its code for "yeah you're cool but like a little brother, not someone I want to go to bed with". Its almost like getting friend zoned in my opinion. Other short guys probably understand what I mean, actions speak louder than words, if a girl wants you she'll give you the body language not say something she'd say to a 3rd grader haha.
 

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i would take that **** with a grain of salt. some girls think you're cute, some think you're ugly, some want to jump your bones.

what are ya gonna do? pull the ones that are attracted to you.
 

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I'd personally rather be called 'hot' or something. Cute is what them relatives that you haven't seen in forever call you.

When I took my date back to my house to play some rockband the other day. I left my heater on way too dam high, so it was hot as hell in here. I said to the girl "Is it hot in here or is it just me?" and she came back with "It's just you." said in a flirty way. I prefer THESE types of compliments.

Anyway I said "feel free to take some clothes off if you get too hot."

It was a fun night, haha
 

eaglez1177

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I disagree. Girls RARELY call a guy "hot" to their face. Calling them "cute" can sometimes be their way of saying that they think your hot and attractive.
 
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