"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Being Called "Cute"

flint

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I know this sounds like a stupid question, but when you're dealing with girls is it a good thing to be called cute? I'm not talking about like "oh you're cute but I just want to be friends", I'm just saying in general.

I'll fill you in on what I mean. I'm a short guy for example, so I feel like if a girl calls me cute that's the kiss of death if you know what I mean, because its like "oh cute like my little brother" (not trying to turn this into a height discussion). Or if I get kissed on the cheek or something I feel like that too.

Anyways what do you guys think? Is it good if a girl calls you cute or is it code for move on?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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eaglez1177

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Cute can go either way. To me its actually REALLY confusing lol.

What I do know is that cute can be said in either the sexual and attractive way or in the just friends way.

I get called cute ALL the time by girls, especially my ex gf she used to call me cute A LOT...luckily for me most of my "cutes" were in the sexual and attractive way.

But it is tough tho distinguishing which context the girl means (whether it be sexual or just friends)
 

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I'll like to say this is bull****, a lot the small/younger (looking) or anything I know get called cute, and you can just tell there nothing there, she may as well be saying as you said, you're cute like my little brother.

The fact that your short reinforces the idea that your being called cute because of being short, which isn't a good thing.

I think that when they call people cute it's very condescending, like your a puppy/little brother not a dominant DJ

Overall i think its a bad thing from personal experience of never seeing someone been called cute then it leading anywhere, and well being "cute" kind of goes against being a Alpha Male DJ

But I suppose it's all about how they say it you just have to learn the difference.
 

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usually girls refer to guys they want to fvck as "hot", "fine", "got it goin on" etc..

Being called cute is better then being called ugly I suppose, but it doesn't convey immediate sexual attraction.
 

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"Cute" will get you a second date, but probably won't get you a one night stand.

It's certainly better than nothing, though.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well on the flip side I never hear girls calling guys hot to their face unless its in a kidding or playful friendly way. Girls aren't usually forward like that in my experience. However, they will say something like "you look cute in that shirt" or something, which is like giving a small compliment I guess.

But yeah I agree with analyze I kind of feel like if a girl is going around saying you're cute its like saying you're like a puppy or some bs. I will admit I do have a little bit of a beef with the fact that I'm really short, so it might just be the fact that I automatically go on the defensive. But at the same time I still feel its code for "yeah you're cool but like a little brother, not someone I want to go to bed with". Its almost like getting friend zoned in my opinion. Other short guys probably understand what I mean, actions speak louder than words, if a girl wants you she'll give you the body language not say something she'd say to a 3rd grader haha.
 

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i would take that **** with a grain of salt. some girls think you're cute, some think you're ugly, some want to jump your bones.

what are ya gonna do? pull the ones that are attracted to you.
 

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I'd personally rather be called 'hot' or something. Cute is what them relatives that you haven't seen in forever call you.

When I took my date back to my house to play some rockband the other day. I left my heater on way too dam high, so it was hot as hell in here. I said to the girl "Is it hot in here or is it just me?" and she came back with "It's just you." said in a flirty way. I prefer THESE types of compliments.

Anyway I said "feel free to take some clothes off if you get too hot."

It was a fun night, haha
 

eaglez1177

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I disagree. Girls RARELY call a guy "hot" to their face. Calling them "cute" can sometimes be their way of saying that they think your hot and attractive.
 
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