How do you guys handle being blown off? I got blown off tonight. Girl wanted to hang out, said she wanted to sleep first, so i called her when she said. Then she said call back in 30, so i did, and no answer, whatdya know.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
being blown off
- Thread starter Swede54
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DJHoolahoop
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 4, 2005
- Messages
- 384
- Reaction score
- 2
I wouldn't say guilt her into feeling bad she blew you off, but sometimes that's the only way to get sincerity out of people.
But really, she blew you off cuz she was tired. If she was truthful about it, then maybe she was either in a rare situation where she was really tired OR she just didn't have enough interest.
Reschedule again, and if she blows you off the second time, tell her to find someone else lol. (not in those words, but you can figure something out)
But really, she blew you off cuz she was tired. If she was truthful about it, then maybe she was either in a rare situation where she was really tired OR she just didn't have enough interest.
Reschedule again, and if she blows you off the second time, tell her to find someone else lol. (not in those words, but you can figure something out)
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
why do you want him to call again to be blown off again?
what you need to do is forget about this girl and wait to see if she calls you and apologizes. Then it is up to you whether you accept the apology and give her another chance, or you take revenge by blowing her off! if she calls you and doesn't even mention the incident or doesn't apologize, I would just get revenge and say something like give me a call, and then give her a taste of her own medicine and do what she did to you.
i've blown so many of my friends off for the dumbest reasons, and i never called to cancel on them, and i'm the one that set up the plans lol
but i can tell you what i've never done.
i've NEVER blown off a girl that i was into, and that would be likewise for a girl that was into you.
Sleep? please you got the rest of your life to get some sleep and when you die you'll have plenty of that
but i can tell you what i've never done.
i've NEVER blown off a girl that i was into, and that would be likewise for a girl that was into you.
Sleep? please you got the rest of your life to get some sleep and when you die you'll have plenty of that
squirrels
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Apr 15, 2003
- Messages
- 6,620
- Reaction score
- 186
- Age
- 47
I'm with christz on this one. Last girl I was seeing, I asked her to come to Atlantic City with me. She had just gotten home from Atlanta after partying all night, tired as hell, plus she lost her ATM card so she couldn't get any money for gambling, and she STILL drove 2 hours from her house in VA to mine in MD so she could go with me.
If she's late to a date, call her up. If she isn't apologetic and doesn't ask for a second chance, she is either ignorant, unreliable, or not interested. In either case, she's history.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
yeah, squirrles hit the nail on the head, but also one other thing don't confuse her intrest as she wants to date you, i mean i've known girls that weren't wholely intrested in a dude but right after work on a closeing shift went to his house.
and i've also made the mistake of a girl hangin out with me on a constant basis that she was really into me. lol boy did that backfire, when i was like lets take it up a level haha good times..
and i've also made the mistake of a girl hangin out with me on a constant basis that she was really into me. lol boy did that backfire, when i was like lets take it up a level haha good times..
squirrels post should be a guideline for guys trying to get dates from a girl. If a girl was wholesomely interested in you, she would use the words "maybe we can meet up next week or how about this day." - I wouldn't go for the "persistent" route like many hopeful rationalizing guys out there as you become the beggar than the "prize." There's a million fish out there, if you're not the catch, there will be another fish out there for you.