"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being betrayed!

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I was dating this girl for a couple months and she betrayed me in such a terrible way. I found out, through one of her good friends--so needless to say i felt entitled to betray her back.

This is something i would never think of doing, but she hurt me so bad! Was it evil of me to tell her friend the bad things she said about her? Part of me thinks i should of kept my mouth shut, but i was just so hurt and caught up in the moment, that i wanted revenge!

It sucks getting used to someone, investing your time, and getting to know a person-- and they suddenly change and become a big disasterous disappointment.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by chevelle
I was dating this girl for a couple months and she betrayed me in such a terrible way. I found out, through one of her good friends--so needless to say i felt entitled to betray her back.

This is something i would never think of doing, but she hurt me so bad! Was it evil of me to tell her friend the bad things she said about her? Part of me thinks i should of kept my mouth shut, but i was just so hurt and caught up in the moment, that i wanted revenge!

It sucks getting used to someone, investing your time, and getting to know a person-- and they suddenly change and become a big disasterous disappointment.
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What happened? what did she do?
 
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Lied to me about who she was and cheated around while dating me!

She ended up being into YAY (drug/coke) and i hate being around people who use drugs. Basically, she told me one thing and did the opposite!

She was hot, sexy, and a lot of fun, but the lies and betrayal hurt too much!
 
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Originally posted by chevelle
Lied to me about who she was and cheated around while dating me!

She ended up being into YAY (drug/coke) and i hate being around people who use drugs. Basically, she told me one thing and did the opposite!

She was hot, sexy, and a lot of fun, but the lies and betrayal hurt too much!
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Ima tell you something right now. If your ever going to get yourself into a Relationship.. You lay it down at the start. You let the girl know, Your not into the Relationship for B*S. You let her know, If shes going to lie to you, If shes not sure about being with you or if shes going to cheat on you... You tell her not to waste your time. You have to let the girl kno that at ANY!!! time you even smell B*S you will walk out on her and lose her number. I know it sucks when you invest time in someone that you may like. Also, a girl who does drugs is a total turn off. Learn from it and find someone who will treat you the same way you treat her.
 
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I was in total shock when i found out about her secret life! I guess i have to stop giving people the benefit of the doubt and stop being so naive!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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get out while it's still fairly early. It's tougher the longer you stay with her.
 
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cutting her out of your life, never thinking of her, moving on and finding someone better is the best sort of revenge you can have.
all those physical mind games are pointless (unless you have pics of her doings stuff to you, in which case: send them to her parents!)

you have nothing to gain by keeping contact with her. move on
 
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